This is only a portion of the Email. Suffice it to say that the garbage(curses)spewed at me is not something I will post here. <p> This particular OM has made a grave mistake. One that will be rectified. <p> This is in response to an email by me simply asking whether he and wife left class together. He didn't answer that question.<p>
"mark" wrote <p>and if you arent still sure why she flirts around with other people, IT'S YOU MAN. its all you. you have obviously started what ever problems the two of you have<p> jd

Okay, like...grow up, or something...like OMG!!! <p>What a loser.<p>Don't play his game. Plan A, that's the game. If you get sucked in, he or she will turn it around to make you look and/or feel bad. She's your wife. She's the one in the wrong. They may laugh (don't know if they are or not), but they are the ones who will lose. Hang in there.<p>Hoping

jd-<p>Don't e-mail OM. You are probably only validating your W's feelings toward you as being controlling and manipulative. OM is telling your W about all of this and not making you look very attractive in the process. I think the confrontation (conversation?) at his place was enough. You are pushing a little too hard now. But, I understand the need to try to fix things on your own. Believe me, I understand that all too well.<p>HoFS

So, what is this guy...14? Sorry, but his response sounds like something a pimply junior high kid would write.<p>I'd laugh it off and toss it in the nearest wastebasket...

Well, that was a great em jd, you now know the the om is a major loser, that has got to be good intel, and a lot better than if he was a worthy suitor.<p>best strategy, ignore him, and do your stuff by the numbers....the other good news (but not good outcome) is if your w still chooses to divorce and run after this om, you have got to seriously question your own bs fog, and why you are attracted to someone that messed up.

"and if you arent still sure why she flirts around with other people"<p>JD, <p>I might have this wrong, but reading the above statement sounds like she is not exclusive with this OM. I also read jealousy, which indicates his immaturity that everyone else on this thread has deduced.<p>Jo<p>[ March 15, 2002: Message edited by: Resilient ]</p>

JD~<p>Hon, don't sweat this.....because......it's OP mentality. Plain and simple. She has obviously blamed you for her indescretions and this guy is stupid enough to believe it....especially because HE is getting something out of your wife.<p>He will probably be the first one to turn on her when things aren't going his way.<p>His email reminds me of a dog peeing on a hydrant. EEEEWWWWWW! <p>You are better than this and I know you probably want to ring this guys bell.......but, you are better than him, yes????? (psst....I know you are
[img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] )<p>Not only that, if you retaliate against him, it will give your wife a sense of superiority...to have her guys fighting over her. DO NOT play into that.<p>sel

Great advice here, JD. Listen to them.<p>I had a "similar" incident this week. I had tried to get an answer from XH about a bill payment that was important, and hadn't heard back from my several e-mails and messages for about 4 days. I sent OW a msg on her cell to please ask him to contact me. She replied something sarcastic about I "had his number and e-mail", bla bla, and she said "do not contact me in the future, you are NOT a part of my life." grrrrr.... I just laughed, but grrrrrr too, ya know? I repled back with, "You came into MY life without an invitation!!!"<p>haha... well, it felt good to say that, but it really was all immature. And all it did was send XH to her rescue in his next e-mail to me. He defended her, and was angry at me for contacting her.<p>Oh well! it's pointless to try to reason with them!<p>keep us posted if any more comes of this...

For cripes sake. How OLD is this guy!?<p>If you want to sink down to his level you can reply one of the following:<p>1) "Nanny nanny pooh pooh."
2) "I am rubber you are glue whatever you say bounces off me and sticks on you"
3) "Well My Dad can beat up your dad" <p>Sorry Im sure you are in no moods for jokes. But I to emphasize how immature and asinine he sounds.<p>Dont even bother grace him with a to reply to that. You are obviously a better man.<p>-HI<p>[ March 15, 2002: Message edited by: HangingIn ]</p>