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<BR>What do you do with one who abuses you ? But, can be a woderful, loving person? H's affairs were resentments over a long period of time. I can see clearly , want to forgive and yet feel abused. H says he iswilling to change some things but will not admit to the intentional mental abuse. Will only admit that having sex in our homw with OW was to hurt me. will quote him:"If she only knew". PLease. does Harley have help for me?

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ABSOLUTELY Harley has help for you. Do you wish to focus on what has occurred in your past or what can be in your future? Go slow! It’s gonna take time to heal. But it is possible.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html</A> <BR>

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thanks Chris. But, why is it that christians always want to pray, forgive trst that it will all work out for the good? If I said I was being battered physically you would say "Get Out now"/ We are talking about mental toture in SUBTLE ways over a period of 10 years. I am also a Christian. This seems to make it difficult.

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Most women who are physically abused never file for divorce or leave their husband. Just because you are a “good Christian“ doesn’t mean you should stay in a bad relationship. If you have truly tried all you can, then perhaps it is time for a separation. He may or may not understand/know what he is doing to you is wrong, but abuse of any kind is wrong!I didn’t get married to ignore my Wife, but it happened for many reasons.


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