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I would love to hear what kind of supertitious/supernatural things some of us may have experienced during the course of our woes.
Two of the interesting ones I had were:<p>1. When WW was on her "vacation" 2 years ago, but was actually in FL with OM, my car odometer did not function for the 5 day period she was with him.<p>2. My final divorce hearing and decree was at 8:45 AM on 9/10/01. We all know what ensued EXACTLY 24 hours later. I witnessed first hand both WTC towers collapsing from a safe distance.<p>Let's here some of your wacko "encounters"!!!<p>[ March 18, 2002: Message edited by: catamount82 ]</p>

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Well, I can't think of any of my own right now, but my H (now a WS, but a BS in his previous M) told me about how he caught his ex-W. He suspected she was cheating on him, and he just started driving. He said it felt like something (someone?) was telling him which way to turn at each intersection, and as he turned onto the final street he had a feeling it was the right one, and sure enough, there she was walking out of a house with her OM and kissing him good-bye before getting into her car.<p>He said he believed it was God guiding him there because it was so quick and so direct. This might not be so amazing if it was a small town, but this was a big metropolitan area.<p>Too bad I didn't get that kind of help to steer me away from this M. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]<p>[ March 18, 2002: Message edited by: Conqueror ]</p>

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I can think of one right away ....<p>Approximately 10 weeks into separation, at home asleep, I was having a nightmare (3:00a). I woke in sweat and tears, couldn't stop crying ... I was dreaming about my H, something to do with him needing me but not able to get to me.<p>As I was calming myself down, the phone rang, it was my H. He said I was on his mind all day and he had to call me to make sure I was alright, said he couldn't sleep. <p>This isn't the first time he and I have had this happen. We always had this stupid connection/premonition thing.<p>When we first met, he and I use to kid around before falling asleep that we'd fly in our dreams and meet each other in the sky. Well, don't think I'm a weirdo or anything, but we did meet each other and remembered it the next morning.<p>I'll be back to finish this, have a meeting.<p>Jo<p>[ March 18, 2002: Message edited by: Resilient ]</p>

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Yes, this cases are interesting.
It feels like God or some angels are with you.
The day I found out about my husbands affair his lover was diagnosed with leukemia.
And now when I am asking God that he would help to restore our family and that my husband would fall out of love with that woman her health becoming worse. Today doctor told that she will live not more then 4 month.
I am starting even to feel that this is my fault.
But I guess God choses whom to help.

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On the positive side of things -- my husband gave me a pair of earrings the other day. I laughed when I opened them because they were the exact same pair I had intended to buy 2 weeks previously, but then spent too much on groceries and never did. Last weekend I was talking to my mother about whether or not I would be up for my sister's bridal shower. I told her I couldn't leave my h alone -- that very night he started talking about how to handle separations of this nature so that I could still go visit my family and not have to worry about what he was up to. He and I do this quite often -- the most memorable to me was years ago when we were in the grocery store picking up stuff for breakfast. We both decided at the same moment that biscuits would be a good addition to breakfast, it was really weird because we never have buscuits with breakfast and we weren't even close to the dairy section. We also finish each other's sentences.

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My H bought me a ring when we married the second time (see my signature line). the ring has always been bent funny. Sunday it broke in half. I wondered if this was a sign. We are headed for separation 5/1. My sons BDay is in April and we want to wait so he is not haunted forever by our separation for the gozillianth time.

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Just thought of another one. I always pray "God reveal if there is something that needs to be revealed and give me peace if there is nothing". I rarely have peace, God always reveals H's lies. This last time I remember thinking, why reveal, why show me, I always take him back anyway, what good does it do to have the info of the lies, affairs, etc and not do anything about it? This time I plan to do something about it.

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One just happened yesterday at church. My wife was being honored for her ministry with children after 14 years (she resigned because of A). As we were reading scripture from the pew bible, she happened by chance to look inside the front cover, and our youngest son's name was there. It was the bible he was given in third grade, and he left it there sometime over the years. He is now a religious studies major in college. And our church is fairly large, so there must be 400 + bibles in the sanctuary.<p>My W took this as a positive signal from God and made her value the restoration of our M even more.

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Everyday since my son died and my XW's affair began, the sun still rises,<p>The tides still change as predicted,<p>The seasons change as promised,<p>My heart still beats.

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My H and I designed our wedding rings with the center stone representing God as the foundation and center of our M and stones on each side representing each of us.<p>Shortly after D-day while out shopping I discovered the center stone missing and haven't worn my rings since.<p>I just accepted the loss of the stone as symbolic of my H's ejection of God from our M. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]

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About the same time my husband fell 4 1/2 stories from a lift at a construction site where he was working, I broke my ankle in a crafts store. He was in Salt Lake City, UT - I was in Waukesha, WI.

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About three weeks before returning to home - while on my business trip - one evening my pulse raced and heart wouldn't stop beating fast. Had a panic attack I think. <p>My coworker sat me down in my hotel room and asked what was wrong. I said I feel like something is not right with W.<p>I was right.<p>I was late for work that night and missed the next day completely. <p>Since then, in almost every case of contact with OM and instances of such I had "vibes" or feelings about it. Before I ever hired an investigator I knew what he would tell me - I mean really KNEW.

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Some strange things have happened to me over the years of my WH's unfaithfulness. This past September 2001 I started having nightmares. These started right after 9/11. I know lots of people had nightmares after this horrible thing happened, but mine was a vision of the WTC towers and alongside was a vision of my husband and a woman. I continued to have nightmares that did not have WTC in them but were unsettling about my husband. I had them up until I was served divorce papers without warning, I thought we were in recovery [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img] The nightmares stopped that night.
After thinking about the nightmares I was having I figured out that in the past each time my husband was about to make a dash to his OW I was also having strange nightmares and dreams. I have never meet or seen OW and sometimes the OW would be beautiful and other times would be complete white trash (this is what I hear she is [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] ). They were often bizarre where once I was forced to move in with WH and OW [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] !
But all and all, my mind was trying to tell me something evil was about to happen. I sure wished I was able to see this while I was awake! [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img]

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My Mom invited me on a 5 day trip to Florida with her and my sister. I had a horrible feeling of dread about going, but no logical reason for it. Things were going fine at home, I wasn't afraid of the plane crashing or anything, just a really bad feeling. I had a horrible time, kept feeling "I need to get back, I need to be home." It was while I was gone that H finally accepted one of OW's invitations to "go out and have a drink". He was acting strangely when I returned. I had no idea why, still didn't suspect an affair. Then one day when he was out something told me to pick up the phone and press redial. Sure enough, it was the office temp ho who answered.
Now here is the weird part. I've never been much of a believer in psychics or anything, but I was grasping at straws. A friend of mine had gone to a lady she swore by. This woman doesn't advertise, takes only payment that you feel she deserves and gives any money she makes from doing readings to charity. I thought - What the heck. This was right after H left. All she knew about me was my first name and birthdate. As soon as I sat down she looked at me and said "Congratulations on the baby!" I was 8 weeks pregnant, you definitley couldn't tell. She then proceeded to tell me when the baby would be born and she evnetualy turned out to have it exactly right. She asks for pictures if you want to know about specific people. I gave her a picture of H (I did NOT tell her anythign at all about him or our marriage). She said "Honey, I know things look really bad now, but I want you to know that it's going to turn out better than either of you could possibly imagine right now. He's going through a weird stage of his life. he loves you very much but he is scared and confused. Once he gets over this he'll be fine for the rest of his life. I want you to know that any outsider who is involved in this situation will end up being completely irrelevant. Within the next 5 months things will start to get back to normal." I was rather disappointed and said "We won't be back together by the holidays?" She said "No, he'll be around, but he'll be up and down." Sure enough, 2 brief false recoveries between Thanksgiving and Christmas. The day he came home for good was 5 months to the day that I had the reading. She told me some other very specific things about myself that she had no way of knowing.


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