I'd like to hear what you have to say. Email me if you wouldn't mind at patty2318@yahoo.com. I have a H who seems to be in a friendship like yours and I mostly believe him. Sometimes hard to since things are so bad between us right now. But I don't think it's her that caused it and I don't think (he says and I believe because who he is) that he discusses us with her. I'm just so desperate. I know her (through him) and I actually like her alot. Just find it hard to believe that they have so much to talk about. Please help me.

Tearsquit,
I used to think the way you do. Almost all my friends throughout life have been male. I still have people who are male who I would consider my friends.
BUT
The fact that you are sharing such INTIMACY is the problem. You laugh together cry together,tell each other your private thoughts.
No wonder his wife hates you. How jealous she must feel that he is sharing with you and not with her. She is the one who he should be rightfuly enjoying time with him alone.
It is a difficult line to walk between emotional closeness and friendship with the opposite sex. It can be done,but at what price.
Are you in a relationship?
Do you believe you should marry your best friend to make a marriage last?
Can you truely say to yourself that neither party would go farther if given the chance?
Just some junk to think about.
I am not against you, like I said I have always had male friends.