My name here used to be "Hurting and Lonely" but I changed it a week ago to something more appropriate.
WW is still gone and still no contact except via e-mail and then only regarding financial considerations.
For those who read my earlier thread, I followed your advice and gave her a portion of the tax return. In a way it made me feel that I was doing the "right" thing, living up to my promise to her even though she's gone and seeing OM. Does that make me a doormat?<p>I still miss the stepkids terribly as well.
Plan A didn't work at all. She lives too far away and I'm out of sight and out of mind. If I mail something to her it has to go to her mother's home. I don't know where W lives now.
So much for my troubles. I'm not giving up just yet. I started kind of a modified plan B. There is no contact between us whatsoever regarding our marriage. Just essential issues. Those are discussed via e-mail once a week at most. Mostley less.<p>Amazingly enough this three month period of separation and especially plan B is finally starting to work wonders for me. Don't get me wrong I did not ask for this She left.<p>And I still don't have a clear reason as to why except for the A she's in.<p>Sorry for the diatribe but there's venting involved here.<p>Time and counseling and reading this board has helped me immensely. Deep down I'm still hurting and think about her everyday. I wonder what she's doing, if she's happy, how the stepkids are, etc.<p>YOU GUYS ARE GREAT!!!!<p>This week I was able to go to work and actually smile for the first time since early December!<p>Thank You So Much<p>I'm learning to live for myself again!
