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#987926 03/23/02 08:11 AM
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Hi. I have just a quick question. How do you know for sure if your spouse has cheated? I have suspected it at times, but have always gotten the same answer. A big no. Is there a way to find out for sure? If so, please let me know.

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If she uses a computer at home - go to www.spectorsoft.com and read what they can do for u.<p>If she has a cell phone ask the company for a detailed billing record and go through it with her asking her what every weird number is. Look for 1 number in particular and recognize a pattern and length of call.<p>If she has a car you can purchase a tracking device from local spy type stores which you can look over.<p>If all else fails and you still think it is something, hire a p.i.. They know how to record activity better than you ever could. <p>Also, keep a journal from now on - ask her innocent questions about where she was e.t.c... record the answers. Wait a while then ask the same thing - perhaps in a different context - see if she lies or forgets her first answer.<p>All this sounds extreme, but it is neccessary affair research - IF something is going on. R U normally a jealous or paranoid person regarding your W? If not then I would say your instinct is telling you something for a reason and you should verify her honesty through research of this type. She is your W and you have every right to know what is going on in her life - especially that which will affect yours.<p>If you discover something, read SAA, get to a councellor, and start using principles that MB ascribes. There is another approach as well, look at www.divorcebuster.com. More tough love approach, but I suspect effective as well.<p>Hope it works out that you find nothing. <p>Be well

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BTW,<p>Try hard to remain non accusatory for the time being so she remains comfortable in her lies (if she is) If she suspects your scrutiny it will get trickier to catch her.<p>be well


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