Dear firefly,<p>I wanted to post this under a new thread so that I wouldn't interupt the other thread.<p>I understand completely about your situation. My brother in-law worked with my H. My H got him the job. In hindsight, I now realize that my sister gave me many hints that something was wrong with my marriage, but never came out and told me. They gossiped within my family for over a year. My sister would say things like "So, is he working late again? How are you getting along?" <p>During the A, my sisters talked me into going on a little vacation for a week with my kids. They knew that he was having an A, and sent me away! How convenient this was for him! I had a bad feeling and went home early, I didn't understand why my h wasn't happy to see me.<p>I finally caught on to the hints and insinuations that my sister kept giving, and while on the phone one night, she admitted that she knew something. She then blurted out the whole truth, but not to help me, to make her husband look good.
(Our husbands had not been getting along--she blamed it on my H's A.)
She blurted out things that I never wanted to hear. If she had told me earlier, the A might have ended earlier. I do not speak to her often now. We were once very close, I just do not ever want to give her the opportunity to betray me again. She had let me go into my husbands work with no knowledge of his A, and I actually spoke with the ow many times. I would then go home and get prank phone calls from her. For over a year I got harrassing phone calls, more than 20 a day. We finally traced them to the ow. I could go on for hours, but I'll stop.<p>I really understand where you are coming from. My H and I worked through it all, and are better than we ever were, although I will always feel vulnerable, but I'm sure that my relationship with my sister will never be the same. It's very conflicting-I will always love her and remember the good things about her, but just can't let her close again.
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