You guys still around here? I've only seen a few posts with names I recognize from the old board. Did yall defect back?!?! LOL! Pepper/yesterday, if you're still around her I wanted to ask you about something you posted a long time ago.<p>To everyone else...how's it going? Things are going well here, atleast we're maintaining. I think it's time we need to start working on some things...but there isn't any urgency to it. Just need to keep the ball rolling, and not get in a rut again. The Bug is POTTY TRAINED!!! Except for a wet bed about once a week when he oversleeps. He's doing really well! The business deal fell through for now. The gal who was supposed to train to become my secretary backed out. She's got 2 small children and the daycare would eat up all the money she'd make. Plus, her husband works out of state so she spends the summers with him there. That wouldn't work!!! I'm sure it will happen someday...but for now I think this is best.<p>Hope you all are doing well. I miss the old board...but have only been back a couple of times to lurk as to how everyone is doing. I think when spring rolls around I'll probly disappear for the most part, and maybe for good. I've got so much other stuff going on I need to focus on. Prioritize, ya know?<p>Anyway....just thought I'd try to catch up and see who's still around and how everyone is doing. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

I'm still here! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I still check in at the other board as well to help when I think I have something to offer, but I find that I seem to be able to offer more here these days. <p>In any event, things are going really good at home. My husband sent me an e-mail today telling me how beautiful and professional I looked this morning. [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img] It made me feel really good.<p>Oh, and we are taking our tax returns this year and putting in a pool! [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img] I am so totally excited.<p>Glad to hear things are going good for you. Congrats on the little ones potty training. I'll see ya around. Take care. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]

Hey Hope! Hey Tutter! What's going on!?!? <p>Things are going well with me. I pop in here every now and then but I really don't think this is the place for me. <p>I lurk at the other place and I have also found another board there that is more for me and my situation.<p>I had a falling out with my mom. To make a long story short, she is a controlling, manipulative and selfish person. A lot of what happened to me she knew about... but chose to turn her head. She was very mean to me a few weeks ago. My sister was in the hospital and no one called to tell me. I asked my mom about it and she just went into hysterics! She was cursing and yelling at me. I am SERIOUS! In any case she hung up after all that and I called her back but she didn't answer. I emailed her a very long mail ~ very HONEST ~ and her response was "I am going to frame this letter". OK... if that makes her feel better.<p>So I finally enforced my boundaries! She crossed the line one too many times and believe it or not this was an important step. I feel so much better. At first I felt upset and insecure but then I felt great. I feel like this huge weight has been lifted off my shoulder. Only thing is, my dad "takes sides" if that makes any sense. This isn't a contest to me. Although it is to my mother and father. This is about me recovering and having healthy and positive relationships. I offered family counseling for all of us ~ but unfortunately she's the kind of person with the attitude of:
"Oooh - counseling!? That's for those weird people that shouldn't interact with the rest of us."<p>So, here I am with no relationship with my mother and undecided about my father. <p>You know what REALLY pisses me off? It's that I KNOW my mom knows what my dad did to me. She KNOWS! And I am convinced that's why she hates me so. And, and, and, and, AND.... the more I think about this the more disgusted I am... my father knows what he did and they are just junky dorey fine with it. It makes me want to puke!<p>I can't even look him in the eye now and you can just forget a hug! It makes me cringe. So I ask myself (and my therapist) if this is the kind of thing I need in my life. And right now the answer is no. I do NOT need this in my life. Their treatment only pushes me back down.<p>Even with alllll this, I feel great! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I still have these awful days when I feel very insecure but I am working on it.<p>Work is going well. I've been to the beach a few times already. I can't WAIT for summer!!! <p>I miss all the Riff Raff. Where are all my friends!?!?!? [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Love,
Clear

Hi all and tutter <p>I am still here, lurking and posting once in a while. I start final exams next week, an am scared as heck, but I know I will survive. the next step is the real (working) world.<p>Hey tutter, congrats on your great marks, gosh darn how many of us go into law to make things better? I know that was part of the reason that drove me, go figure. <p>
I miss the old board, but I feel so unwelcome there, it sucks.... Love to all my RB friends
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Hello Riff Raff, <p>I am still here, just been busy preparing for baby, have only a month or so to go. Situation with SO is going very well, have not posted much as I don't really feel like what we are doing is so much MB, but more just doing what is right for us, whatever it is it seems to be working. We still argue sometimes but I see a genuine effort by him to change and he definately opens up alot more than he ever did before, and thats a big help. Even arguments are talked out and by the end of the day we are hugging still, that's a huge step for us. Thanks for thinking bout us. <p>Bridgette

Very cool to see you all! WHERE IS PEPPER??? [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] I'm so bummed...when I left the other site I gave my email...and lionheart wrote. I wrote her back but it was right after she posted saying she was leaving the site. I totally understood that, but in her email she said she wanted to keep in touch...and I haven't heard from her since. I'm not sure if she just quit checking the ivillage email or what. If any of you run into her, let her know I think about her and would love to email.<p>Tutter...very cool! H and I are doing well too, but I have some EN's that aren't being met and I would't doubt that he has some beefs too. We need to have a powwow and talk about it. But I'm not stressing over it....it's little stuff, yet I won't let it go just BECAUSE it's little stuff. It adds up over time.<p>Lyndy, you are amazing! You'll do fantastically! Do you have an idea where you'll head once you are done with school? Jobs already lined up or anything?<p>Some1smom...congrats! I hope delivery is easy on you! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Clear!!! What a difficult situation. The only advice I would have is to take care of you, and do what you can with you...and let mom and dad be. It doesn't sound like they are an uplifting influence in your life...so maybe for now they shouldn't be in your life. Doesn't mean they have to be shut out completely, or forever...just til you are on very solid ground! I think you are right on with your analysis of them. Mom and dad have issues...but they are theirs to deal with (or ignore as it seems they choose to do). Take care of you!!!!!<p>Anyway, it was great to see some familiar faces. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]<p>[ March 27, 2002: Message edited by: hope4future ]</p>

Hey there Riff Raff....... chat going down tonight...... any takers> [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I have to at least look in, since I stirred that hornet's nest up anyway [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] <p>see you if I see you, all others are presumably welcome. It could be an eye opener http://www.ivillage.com/ivillage/chat/singlechat/0,1704,413664,00.html hope that is the link, but if not please do not bash me, I canna take it these days......... Love to all,
Respectfully

hell-ooooooo Baby ! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I lurk some, post little lately.<p>"Casa de Pepper" is peaceful these days [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Love and hugs....<p>Pepper