Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum

This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at mbrestored@gmail.com
Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
#988821 03/26/02 07:41 PM
Joined: Jan 2002
Posts: 37
A
Member
Member
A Offline
Joined: Jan 2002
Posts: 37
When WS does come around and is willing to work on the marriage, how long does it take to completely believe the things they say to you? My H says the sweetest things to me now and I find in the back of my mind I'm wondering if he truely feels as he says or if he just says what he knows I want to hear? [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img]

#988822 03/26/02 08:00 PM
Joined: Jun 2000
Posts: 8,069
R
Member
Member
R Offline
Joined: Jun 2000
Posts: 8,069
Hi Acme,<p>I have recovered once with H after his first A, approx 10 years ago. When your H's actions consistently match his words is when you'll know you can start to trust what he tells you.<p>JMVHO ....<p>God Bless,<p>Jo<p>p.s. Whenever I see the word "Acme" I think of the Road Runner and Wile E. Coyote. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

#988823 03/26/02 08:40 PM
Joined: Sep 2001
Posts: 1,086
C
Member
Member
C Offline
Joined: Sep 2001
Posts: 1,086
From where I'm standing right now, I don't think I'll ever believe any of it. I have such tangible proof in the form of cards he gave me during the A, and I could hand you one of those and the most recent one (Valentine's Day for instance), and NO ONE would be able to tell the difference. I posted those back on V-day because the card meant absolutely nothing to me--made me mad, in fact, because there is no way to tell the difference, so I just don't believe anything he says anymore, especially in regard to feelings about me or our M.<p>We obviously don't have the same definition for the word "love", so I just let him say it, but I no longer interpret it to mean anything significant. Ditto the compliments or other "sweet nothings". They're nice and a long time in coming and they would have meant a lot to me a long time ago, but they have no meaning to me anymore. He probably said all the same things to the OW, too. So, I just don't invest in any of that anymore, and what Jo said about actions is right--that is the only thing worth listening to IMO.


Moderated by  Fordude 

Link Copied to Clipboard
Forum Search
Who's Online Now
0 members (), 811 guests, and 55 robots.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Newest Members
Gocroswell, Allen Inverson, Logan bauer, Karan Jyotish, sofia sassy
72,024 Registered Users
Latest Posts
How important is it to get the whole story?
by leemc - 07/18/25 10:58 AM
Following Ex-Wifes Nursing Schedule?
by Roger Beach - 07/16/25 04:21 AM
My wife wants a separation
by Roger Beach - 07/16/25 04:20 AM
Spying husband arrested
by coooper - 06/24/25 09:19 AM
Forum Statistics
Forums67
Topics133,624
Posts2,323,518
Members72,024
Most Online6,102
Jul 3rd, 2025
Building Marriages That Last A Lifetime
Copyright © 2025, Marriage Builders, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Site Navigation
Powered by UBB.threads™ PHP Forum Software 8.0.0