He of course is sticking to his story - he told her it's over. Her e-mails read a little differently. Jay where are you?<p>"why didn't you call me - she didn't go out"
"it's only for 30 days - right?"
"...in case you want to make love tomorrow"<p>He sits here last night saying he wants to be here and put are family back together yet it is so clear he has not made it clear to her it's over. He won't call her either.<p>Now what? I had already made the mistake last night of saying he could move home so all his crap is here and I just read these e-mails now.<p>Keep in mind I cannot mention the e-mail account to him because he doesn't know I know about it and I will need it very much if I go to court (likely).<p>Now what? Do I play dumb and give him the 30 days? watch the e-mails? he tried to have sex with me last night and has called twice this morning with "I love you, I'm glad to be home crap".<p>I should have trusted my gut and not my Mother!

hopefulandsad,<p> Its hard to sit on that info you got from the email, it may be that he did not tell her its over. At this point, if you tell, you lose a good source of info from the emails. I'd keep watching them for awhile, it will give you the info you need to know whats going on. Try not to let that you're snooping on even tho its going to be hard not to. those emails sound like he's just "cooling it off" with her to give you a false sense of security. Jeez! <p>Hang in there and plan A. If he's not "seeing" her for awhile, its an opportunity for you to show him what he's missing at home.

Well, I can tell you...just from reading this, she is feeling scared. She will lose confidence and begin to LB. She will probably put the pressure on him and resent these 30 days. She will be impatient...wanting him to call, and he can't then she will be upset! You will be spending your time with him and he will eventually get anxious because he is unable to call. It is playing out exactly how affairs do.<p>It is hard to say how it will go. He may get sick of the stress...etc. And he surely could be happy to be home and love you, yet, it is unbelievable the "hold" affairs can have on you.<p>I know that it is hard to hang on and sit tight for 30 days, but I really believe that if you are careful, the affair could very well self-destruct before your eyes.<p>Best of luck to you.