What an experience. The old saying is certainly correct, you get what you pay for. Her lawyer was not very good and she left frustrated after my session. My WWs depo on the other hand was quite revealing and dammaging due to the abilities of my counsel.<p>It was unbelievable the things that came out. I as a BS thought I bacame pretty good at detective work but there was tons I wasn't even aware of.<p>She has told the children, 15,13,11,7 about the A, that he loves her and she him, they hope to get married, they have looked for a house for them, etc.<p>She has taken them to secretly meet him on shopping trips, dining out, etc. and told them not to tell their father.<p>She even smirked as though she thought it was clever of her when she told the attorney that she went to Vegas with OM while I had the kids on spring break last week. <p>Admitted she lies to the children and uses profanity toward them - but wouldn't admit to the threats of physical violence she almost daily throws out.<p>She admitted instructing the children to lie to teachers when homework was not done - even to fake sick. Sleeping and showering with the two youngest and that each of these things were in the best interests of the children in her opinion.<p>I had been confused whether or not to take her offer durring mediation to split custody but now I am pretty convinced that no matter what she has convinced the children of, living with her is not the best for them.<p>I am certain WW sees the strong possibility of loosing custody - talk about tough love. She has not spoken to me in the two days since the depo. Not that I have really wanted to talk to her much either since I have found out these additional items. I was so disgusted that it didn't even seem to hurt as much as it has in the past. I dont know how to feel about the loss of pain. But the pain in my chest and heart and deep emotional wrenching was almost immediatly gone after the meeting - maybe it means I am finally letting go?<p>I know she must be in great pain following the depo based on her behavior. I am sure she probably broke down at her lawyers after the depo - looked like she wanted to cry durring. She didnt sleep that night and was up at 4:30 that next morning. But I have a hard time feeling sorry for her - and I guess I am feeling guilty for it.<p>She is at a home study inv. appt today. Likely I will have one soon, then with the kids together. For some reason the children are really sticking by there mom. I think they are afraid to be abandoned too. Any other thoughts that might help?<p>The lawsuits against him are continuing and got stronger based on her admissions in depo. Dont feel guilty about that.<p>If you would please pray for me for continued strength, a good home study outcome and the appointment of a male sympathetic judge.<p>Any thoughts comments or ideas are appreciated.<p>JC

A question please.<p>Is the lawsuit against the OM based on the fact that he was your family physician, treating your depression? Is this a "malpractice" suit, or what?<p>Pepper

John,
I was wondering where you disappeared to. Glad you posted an update [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] .<p>I'm not sure what I can give advice on... but you definitely have my thoughts and prayers. You're in a tough situation there. It breaks my heart to read the things you are saying your W has done.

Pepper,<p>Yes regarding one of the lawsuits. 1 malpractice and one for Intentional infliction of emotional harm. <p>In addition to being my Physician, he treated my children, wife. Was also wifes supervisor and preceptor for part of her medical training. Passed himself off as family friend and went camping, holidays etc with us.<p>Nice guy huh?<p>John

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Nice guy huh? <hr></blockquote>.....NOT!<p>This is a heap-a trouble for him! A big "NO NO". I'm an RNP ... what does your WW do?<p>Pepper

Pepper,<p>RNP,RNM<p>Pls post your email so I can discuss further offline.<p>Thanks<p>John

Faith,<p>Thanks for the thoughts and prayers. I need all I can get!

pepperband@ivillage.com <p>OK.