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i figure that would get ya!! i do think i am gonna try to talk to husband tonight about the money coming to us and the relationship itself. i really cant talk about the money without the relationship stuff. i know he isnt gonna like it but i feel if i wait for him, i have a better chance of a real elephant turning up in my livingroom [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>any thoughts on yes do it or no dont????
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Hi, I don't have any advice, but thought you might like to hear a funny about an elephant. My family went to the zoo today, and there are two elephants there. One of their names is the same as the FOW's name. So I said outloud, before thinking, "How Fitting" Since my H hasn't read the posts here yet, he doesn't know about the recent "elephant in the room" threads, He probably thought I was just being ugly. I guess I was doing both, but it really cracked me up. There was also a HUGE pile of elephant dung right beside them, I couldn't help it, it was too funny to me, finally a trigger that had the RIGHT effect. I hope your talk goes well, keep your wits about you and keep your self-respect at all costs. If you don't like you, no one else will. Hope you got a laugh from this one too.
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dear sfmc-thanks for the story-cracked me up!! very fitting. i cant take credit for the elephant thing-i think conqueror started it. thanks.
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well husband ought to be home in a half an hour. i guess im still gonna do this tonight-unless anyone thinks i shouldnt???<p>anyway i have a 1/2 hour to decide.
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Nikko,<p>How did it go? I just read this thread and realized I was too late. <p>Well, if you and sfmc would like a pix about an 'elephant', send me your e-mail addy @ lhmkem@yahoo.com It is entitled: "quite complaining about your job". Another MBer here sent it to me........ and you think we only talk about A stuff..... LOL!! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Take Care,
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I CHICKENED OUT. IT BEING A HOLIDAY WEEKEND AND ALL. <p>im a big chicken.<p>on the plus side we are leaving our youngest at my moms for the week. im gonna be freeeeee! hopefully we can have some dates and serious conversations without the interuptions. plus husband was being sweet with his words yesterday, and some actions. i didnt want to ruin that.<p>on the plus, plus side-i did get one need met last nite-SF.
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DO IT! What's the worst that can happen? You have to give him a chance to know the truth about how you feel. If you don't, and things get worse, you'll feel bad because you have not done everything you could have. Isn't there something in Matthew about "The truth shall set ye free". I don't think God was talking about this specifically, but I think he'd endorse it's use if it will get you to talk to your H with "Honesty and Openess" (remember that EN?)!
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If you look at my elephant thread, I was scared to bring it up too, and it went WAY better than I expected. I wrote out some of it so that I wouldn't say more than I meant, and the tone was neutral. I also stuck to one or two consequences of the elephant and was very clear that I was explaining the problem I have and not forcing him to any particular solution. I really feel that this helped a lot, that he understood what the problem was and he came up with his own solutions which were way better than I could have hoped for.
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