Dear Thinker,<p>It is good to hear from you and I apologize for not calling more often. I think we have all been busy both here and in our personal lives. <p>I am soooo sorry that your situation is taking this turn. You know I care about the both of you. How will I have those chats with you and those long chats with SNL at the same time?? LOL!!! I wish I was closer so I could pay you both a visit. Tell SNL, you know I would remind him that he should be grateful for you. Someone like me would have given up long ago! Maybe SnL needs to feel sorry for my H. Who by the way vacuumed the house last week without my even asking him to! WOW. That was a huge deposit in my LB! <p>As for us, well PBR is still trying to call. She has been told more than once that contact with any member of this family is not appreciated. H calls her stubborn and feels that the more you tell her not to call the more she will call. He is still very reluctant to file harrassment charges so I told him that what I choose to do can not be argued by him since he had his chance to put a stop to it. She called him on his cell about 3 times 1 day and then once to the house phone on the same day. The reason: Talk about returning a rock (boulder) that he gave her last year. Next time 2 days later it was with the excuse that she hit the wrong button on her phone. Hmmmph......even if there was some truth to it..... with all those lies, who can tell? <p>Anyway, the steps I will be taking will not be disclosed yet. You see, I don't believe in 'warning the enemy'. Never show your hand to the opponent. I will use whatever I choose that is valid within the law. <p>So how is your mom and MIL doing? Are you still in therapy? So if SNL is on his own, who is cooking for him? Lemon meringue (sp?) pie sure sounds good now...... Yum!!! SNL, you getting this? <p>Ok, I won't tease him anymore, just wanted to remind him of the stuff I know he likes and that he has chosen to leave at least for now. <p>You know that my H also spent time away from his family in an effort to 'find himself'. SNL you remember those days and remember how you felt about my H's actions?!!?!? Sometimes it is easier to see the crud on someone else than on ourselves. For that we individually need to make a self-examination in the mirror of our heart. WE can start by looking in the glass mirror and take a real hard look at the outside(what others see), then the inside (what we think others see). Finally, both sides......what we should all be. <p>Thinker, you and SNL have been very helpful to me in the past. I hope in my heart that you are both able to work out what is best for the both of you. It won't be easy but it can be done. <p>Thanks for caring. I will call later this week. <p>Keeping both of you in my heart and prayers,
L.
