Lupo---will continue to pray as you face new challenges alone and continue to grow as you.<p>My heart goes out to you----what a devastating mess we humans create. Your story touched me and it reminds me of the many encounters WS and I have been having....real genuine moments.<p>God bless you and ((((((((hugs))))))))
TW

hmmm, you thought not waiting meant dating huh? Nah, I understand your position too well to suggest that...I meant....just...not....waiting...live your life, alone if you must, but there are many things you can do while you wait for God's will....just be sure it is His will......and not yours.

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by sad_n_lonely:
<strong>hmmm, you thought not waiting meant dating huh? </strong><hr></blockquote>
Uh, well....YEAH!!! So many people ("well-meaning" people) DO mean that when they tell me that!!!!<p> <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr><strong>I meant....just...not....waiting...live your life, alone if you must, but there are many things you can do while you wait for God's will....just be sure it is His will......and not yours.</strong><hr></blockquote>
Yes, I understand now. I am trying to figure out how to do this.....right now, I am living my life....although it doesn't include MUCH outside of just working and home..........seems like it's too "antiseptic" to be healthy. Ya know? But I'm still healing. I'll get balanced!

well glad we got that cleared up....actually I don't think I have ever suggested someone start "dating" as a way of moving on....I am far more likely to tell them to figure out who they are and what they want before they do anything...probably give em the life strategies book.... yep, is too aniseptic....go learn something, go on an adventure, go volunteer where it will do some good, take up politics, take up a sport, train a dog, learn to fly an airplane, write a book...live lupo...live....do not park yourself in a holding pattern...that is how you heal IMO.<p>[ April 03, 2002: Message edited by: sad_n_lonely ]</p>

Dear Lupo,<p>Well lady! U done good. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] Now he is thinkin about you. Seems like he is scared of his future. What will it hold? That is up to him. How sad that he could have the security and love that would help him through hard time but now he may have financially obligated himself to the OW. [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I am proud of you. I know you probably could have made mincemeat out of him but choose not to. <p>You have certainly been an example to us how to handle ourselves during these types of situations. Thank you for the close up play by play. It was a learning experience. <p>Hugz,
L.

lupo,<p>You did good!! I like your enthusiasm!! I do hope that you will stick around with us for awhile yet, I love your insight!!<p>Take care, May God continue to Bless you!!<p>Dawn [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Praying for you. Well, SNL talked to me briefly about dating others now, and about having sex. Well see what he figures out. Praying for you.

thinker, I am getting very tired of you speaking for me, please leave me out of your posts. For the record the implication thinker just made is a load of horse puckey...the conversation those comments were made in was in reference to a controlled seperation, (their is a book by someone who escapes me at the moment). There is a list of a dozen or so issues that the couple addresses as they work out their particular arrangement. On that list were things like finances, who leaves the marital home, etc. etc. and also included whether any dating is allowed, and sexual expectations between the couple. I simply told thinker these things, we have discussed very little about our circumstances, we really find it pretty much impossible to discuss anything to resolution. Instead each day is a new adventure driven by how ticked off thinker is or isn't for the most part IMO. I would really like a FAIR, thorough airing of all the issues with very specific and discernible boundaries...and NO relationship talks, love busting,....or abuse about the affair.<p>As for the two issues thinker mentioned, I have absolutely no intention of dating anyone, nor do I intend to have any sexual involvment with anyone including thinker.<p>Sorry lupo, I am finding my name mentioned (usually in unflattering ways) in almost every post thinker makes, and I am getting very tired of it, so decided to take a stand here.