I need to post this to let you all know where I am and to show me too.<p>My wife and I sold our house in the country and moved. Me into town and her outside off town but in same school district. The kids' schools did not change. <p>Before the move my wife was going through withdrawl and was so uncertain what she wanted. OM's sister called W and told her OM had girlfriend and they werre talking about getting married already. This all trough wife for a loop. She said for the longest time if he walked through the door she would want to go with him. (is this to keep him from girlfriend?). I have been able to do fairly well being supportive of her and she has talked to me finally about how she feels,not the way I would like her feel at first, but I won't argue with her about how she feels.<p>She asked if we could separate, that she didn't know what she wanted. I said I could support that with a few conditions. First we would each live alone, plus each have the kids 1/2 of each week. I needed to know every time OM calls her and if she ever calls him. He called her 3 times since September. She was told by him he was moving to CO to live with hes sister, he moved instead to PA to be with a girlfriend. She said she isn't going to call him and will tell me if he calls her. Told me "you must be happy now that he dumped me and ran away" I told her I am never happy to see her hurt, but I can only be careful of what I do I can't control what others do.
Before we moved we were sleeping in the same bed, no relations but talking and keeping each other company. We stayed up late some nights with a glass, or 2, or 3, of wine. We wee talking better than we had in a long time.
She has repeatedly questioned if selling the house was the right thing to do an I have told her we need to sell it, too much work and money and not enough time for us.
Moving was to let us find the "people we were before and find out who we are. My wife made it clear she needs to do things for herself and feel good about herself again.
Since the move she cameto the conclusion she needs help, I told her if she wants my help I will help if asked. I have been putting up shelves, venting dryer, and misc other things. She has done my laundry, cut my hair/trimmed mustache, and had me over for meals.
She asked if I would help her pick out wall valets for her bathrooms.
I have backed off most physical contact with her. Last week on day I said "I just wish I could hug you" she said go ahead. We had a 2 minute hug,what a feeling. I kiss her good bye most times I leave, and she seems to be waiting for the kiss. we are getting closer and boy do I want to rush but need to hold back. <p>Is there anyone who has gone through this type of thing and has gotten back together and what helped the most?<p>I know this is long but is good for me to get it out. Thanks
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