Hi there Margue jsut checking up on you!
Any progress?

Hey friend,<p>Thanks for asking. You know the normal roller coaster. One or two weeks go by and nothing happens. All is well. Then it hits the fan again... [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Just went through another up/down cycle. Two weeks of things going great (still no rings though). <p>Then all of a sudden he's working all the time again, hardly at home. And we've had sex 2x's in the past 21 days. Ok so whats up?? I confronted him, he says it's nothing. It's just that he's been wanting to get some bills paid off. He is really working. Just really tired. I said you weren't too tired to fu(k two women at the same time and work all those hours (ouch).
Its all so exhausting...<p>Of course I say "Yeah right". And on it goes. I got so depressed I just took sleeping pills and slept for two days. I've cried so much I'm sick. <p>Is he seeing her or isn't he. He says no. I found out that the little creep is spreading around (to friends of mine) that she was pregnant by him. He says he doesn't believe it. She supposedly lost it. What a liar.<p>Same old garbage. I'm so sick of this. So many things between us have changed and I'm so sick of all of it. Tired of fighting it. Tired of doing this. Just plain tired [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I've thought about hiring a private detective and seeing if he is seeing her or not. I'm almost afraid to do it. I'm afraid of what I would find out. Sick huh?<p>Oh well. It's all so very tiring, and so boring. I'm sick of it. <p>Other then that, all is well [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Kids are great. As always... [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Thanks for asking.. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

Rollercoasters suck dont they?<p>Im so tired of the "fighting the good fight" also and am afraid I've gone back to depression again. <p>Are you on meds hon? You should be especially after your sleeping pill thing. DONT DO THAT damnit! Bad you. There are always ways out of this mess. Suicide is even more inexcusable than an A. <p>Well do what you can.. forget about him then remember to work on you.. not that its easy or anything.Its what Im trying to do. Know your limits too. If you are truely at the end of your rope there is always a plan B.<p>
Stick around hon let me know you are ok, alright?<p>-HI

Didn't take enough to do any harm. Just take 2 and sleep and wake up and take 2 more. Just enough to stay asleep and not deal with this crap.<p>I'm so tired of sitting here and wondering every minute of every day if he's seeing her or not. If he's in the back seat with that whore somewhere. <p>Sick, sick, sick... [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] <p>How do you trust again?? How in the world do you stop thinking of him with her? How do you ever get over the betrayal?<p>I'm so tired.... [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img] <p>It's all so tiring and so boring and so incredibly stupid....<p>He's sending mixed signals and I'm going crazy. I'm so over all of this mess...<p>Somewhere in here I saw a Plan A 1/2. It was from divorce busters. It was a list of things to do/not do. I meant to print it out but lost the thread...have you seen it?<p>I'll probably look for it in one of the other boards. Thanks...for being a friend.. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]

Here ya go dear.<p>http://www.divorcebusting.com. <p>
1. Do not pursue, reason, chase, beg, plead or implore!
2. No frequent phone calls
3. Do not point out good points in marriage
4. Do not follow him around the house
5. Do not encourage talk about the future
6. Do not ask for help from family members
7. Do not ask for reassurances
8. Do not buy gifts
9. Do not schedule dates together
10. Do not spy on spouse
11. Do not say "I Love You"
12. Act as if you are moving on with your life
13. Be cheerful, strong, outgoing and attractive
14. Don't sit around waiting on your spouse - get busy, do things, go to church, go out with friends, etc.
15. When home with your spouse, (if you usually start the conversation) be scarce or short on words
16. If you are in the habit of asking your spouse his whereabouts, ASK NOTHING
17. You need to make your partner think that you have had an awakening and, as far as you are concerned, you are going to move on with your life, with or without your spouse
18. Do not be nasty, angry or even cold - just pull back and wait to see if spouse notices and, more important, realize what he will be missing
19. No matter what you are feeling TODAY, only show your spouse happiness and contentment. Show him someone he would want to be around.
20. All questions about marriage should be put on hold, until your spouse wants to talk about it (which may be a while)
21. Never lose your cool
22. Don't be overly enthusiiastic
23. Do not argue about how he feels (it only makes their feelings stronger)
24. Be patient
25. Listen carefully to what your spouse is really saying to you
26. Learn to back off, shut up and walk away when you want to speak out
27. Take care of yourself (exercise, sleep, laugh & focus on all the other parts of your life that are not in turmoil)
28. Be strong and confident and learn to speak softly
29. Know that if you can do 180, your smallest CONSISTENT actions will be noticed much more than any words you can say or write
30. Do not be openly desperate or needy even when you are hurting more than ever and are desperate and needy
31. Do not focus on yourself when communicating with your spouse
32. Do not believe any of what you hear and less than 50% of what you see. Your spouse will speak in absolute negatives because he is hurting and scared
33. Do not give up no matter how dark it is or how bad you feel
34. Do not backslide from your hardearned changes.

thanx, I think this is for me.<p>Gonna give it a try and see what happens... [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] <p>At least it will help me feel better about myself and what's going on with me. No more sitting around waiting for him to decide what HE is comfortable doing. I feel like such an idiot waiting around like a lap dog, waiting for him to "pet" me. <p>Well, Let him see how it feels for awhile. I'm through sitting around crying and wanting him all the time. <p>See if the shoe is as comfortable on the other foot.<p>thanx!! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img]

Now I dont agree with all of them but then again what do I know =)<p>Ah well be good margue-ster!<p>*major hugs*<p>-HI [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

I think they forgot one....Like fu(k you, I'm sick of this [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img] <p>just kidding... [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img]