Hi!<p> I had a question about the Harley's quizzes. I have looked through them but not filled them out. I am not sure how to answer them. Looking at our M before the A, I would fill them out completely different than now after D-day. Questions about SF would be answered completely different now because I have not had any but before the A SF was great- or so I thought. <p>
Now after D-day I have not had SF but I have discovered a whole new world of things I'd like to do. (I have only been with my H and our SF was good but not as exciting as some of the things I have learned about) I have been taking courses on Sexual fulfillment, increasing your desire and reading alot of books to get more insight and ideas- I highly recommend 101 nights of GRRReat sex by Laura Corn.<p> For recreational fulfillment before d-day I would have answered differently. Now since Plan Aing so hard my wild side has come to the surface and I am actually doing things I had only talked about doing before the A.<p> So when my h and I fill out the quiz- do we answer how we feel right now or before the A? Right now the answers to everything would be the lowest scores possible because we have been in plan B for 3 months.
Please help!
Thanks,
Forgiver

When you fill out a ENQ go by how you feel now. That gives an accurate reading of what needs you have now and how they need to be filled. You can take another ENQ in another 6 months if you want. Our needs change, as you have described. Taking the Questionnare every few months helps keep you both on track.

Thanks Cleopatra!<p> Oh my those scores will be low. I hope that will not be a LB for both of us. We have been apart for a year. I have seen him 10 weeks in the past year. So we have not been fulfilling each others needs thus the A on his end. Now I see why it happened. I wish i learned about MB before all this.
I think they should have MB on TV 24/7. It should be broadcast over the news every night! <p> "This just in.... Have you made deposits in your spouses LB today or did someone else?... We now go live to the scene where anchor man Rock Stone has some nifty ways to make a fast deposit now..." People should know about all this stuff. Not have to go through all thsi bull sh** and have this happen out of ignorance. People need to be educated!!
Forgiver

Forgiver,<p>Try not to look at it as a low or high score. Just a reality check to see what your current needs are and how they can be met and vice/versa.
Concentrate on meeting the top three needs of your spouse. That's where you will make the most deposits. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]