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He's going to drive me nuts! he has admitted to still sleeping with her and even chuckled about it at our marriage counselling session as a "slip up".<p>he has legal rights to be in the house. It's torture - now what?
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Is there any way you can take the information you have against him so far and go ahead and file for a D? It doesn't seem like he should be able to keep doing this to you.
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How desperate to be rid of him are you? When my x wouldn't leave, I did.
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My H did the same thing. I told him if he didn't leave I would file for divorce. He didn't leave and I filed. In Houston there is no legal separation so I have to divorce in order to get him out. The hard thing is legally he does not HAVE to leave until the divorce is final which would be another 4 months. He did leave once I filed because by then he realized he was pushing me away by staying and by then he didn't want to push me away. I figured even if he stayed the 4 months I would be secure in my hating him enough to follow through with it with no regrets.<p>By the way...we are in recovery now.
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i can't think of a divorce - a separation is all I can handle right now. <p>I saw the lawyer today and I am just devasted over all of this. My heart is broken.
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H is still sleeping with her and rubbing my face in it. This is the most incredible pain I have ever felt - it's terrible. I have two babies - 4 months and 23 months and his GF is 23! He's almost 39 and said to babysitter tonight she makes him happier than coming home! Hurts so bad.
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he called her last night and told her they will soon be together and she is the one he loves (not me). also lies and says I'm in the shower when I was out for the night with my aunt - why lie about that?<p>he treats me like crap! this hurts so badly.
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OMG he is such a snake!! I was just about to ask you about the age difference. I have no idea what to tell you, my heart breaks for you... your pain and sadness come thru in your posts. About saying you were in the shower, I would guess he didn't want her knowing you were out for some reason. <p>I am not sure if you are religious, but you might want to consider turning to God in a time like this to pull you thru. You have to find the inner strength from somewhere to rise above this, and not let these two horrible people destroy a wonderful person and two little lives that are just getting started in the world.
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i am religious and I know that is the only thing that has been my saving grace - He is with me.<p>My H is such a snake. Our children are so beautiful and so young and I'm so hurt by all of this. I am just devasted and he just doesn't care.<p>I hope one day he feels half of this pain - I hope.....
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Honey, he will get his. The thing is you can't focus on that now. You need to focus on you, and pulling yourself together to face these two. You know they live off the excitement, the forbidden aspect of it. Maybe you need to take on a you can have him attitude. Write down all his dietary restrictions, take her all his laundry and tell her to do it. Ummmmm... I am trying to think of some other things you could do... Maybe I'll post again, need to eat lunch. <p>I will say a prayer tonight for you and your little ones.
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Bumping this up...<p>How are you doing today hopeful?
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i feel like crap.<p>I asked him last night when he's getting paid (commission based business) and he said 'stop nagging and *****ing". Oh sorry, I'm the wife, there is responsibility attached to me and the children.<p>doesn't he get it when he gets out there in fantasy land with her she'll have the same damn questions?<p>I tapped him telling her she's the one he loves, they'll be together soon, etc. don't know if he's planning something. I'm totally out of the house for dinner and he tells her I'm in the shower. Why lie about that? he lies about everything.<p>then last night he says why don't you get a car like mine it would look cool to have matching cars in the driveway?<p>i just don't get him.
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