diddallas - I think your revision to your poat title was appropriate. Just this will clarify what you were trying to communicate, I think.<p>I admit that I was a little taken aback by the title at first, but by the time I read your post in its entirety, I understood what you were really saying as evidenced by my initial reply.<p>Thanks for being open minded about how the message was received by some. I understand how others may have received it differently than I did.<p>And, thanks for your understanding of the BS perspective. I agree with peppermint that there can be a thin line between tough love and compassion.<p>WAT

WAT,<p>Thank you for your kindness and compassion--sometimes I feel that is a commodity that is in extremely short supply. <p>As I mentioned in my response to Bramble Rose, I am also a BS...but I don't use that as any rationaliztion for my own actions. Frankly, I feel that what I did was much, much worse than my h's a because, frankly, I expect much better of myself.<p>I would like to take this opportunity to tell you that many times I read your posts and say to myself "oh, yeah!" You do have a great deal of wisdom and you are very kind to share it.

Mr. Bunky-Thank you for your insightful response. It gave me a lot to think about.<p>HanginIn-my psychiatrist (whom I have on retainer) already knows I&#8217;m nuts&#8230;but he&#8217;s really cute so I keep going for that second opinion, too!<p>Faith 1-Thank you as well. That&#8217;s the answer I was looking for, I think.<p>Justthewife-Ok! Ok! I get the point! LOL!<p>Lor-&#8220;Hopefully we all make the best decisions we can according to our situations, abilities, knowledge, strenghts & weaknesses&#8230;It isn&#8217;t one size fits all, we&#8217;re just trying.&#8221; Well, some people here seem to believe that they know what is best for EVERYONE, regardless of what we know to be true regarding our own situations. Thank you, Lor, for your words of wisdom and compassion.<p>Free2Bme-I&#8217;m sorry. Truly. <p>TinyDancer-Amen, sister, amen.<p>Ohsoconfused-more fodder for my addled brain to ponder. Great points.<p>Orchid-Again, more wisdom.<p>BrambleRose-Actually I am both a BS and a WS, although if the latter has anything to do with the former, it is buried way, way down in my subconscious. I will not blame my own stupidity on the actions of my husband.
&#8220;We are all on a journey, and we are all at different locations on the road, driving at different speeds. Some of us get a tad detoured along the way.
We all get there eventually. What you are seeing is just a glimpse of someone elses journey on the road.&#8221; Thank you for probably the very most insightful words on this thread.<p>Plain Jane-Jane, Jane, Jane. Since when is it &#8216;playing God&#8217; to ask a question? I wonder if you have ever asked yourself why you resent my presence on this forum so much? Do you really think that because you perceive that my h is still unaware of the a, that I haven&#8217;t suffered? That your life has been so much harder than mine? I assure Jane that I have had my hardships along life&#8217;s rocky little road&#8212;they just aren&#8217;t the same as yours. For example, did your mother die before you were 12? Mine did. Did your brother die before you were 11? Mine did. Have you been married to a man that alternated between emotional Siberia and physical abuse? I have. I could go on but I really find it too depressing. Do you consider yourself a Christian, Jane? That&#8217;s fine by me but I believe that the Bible says &#8220;Judge not, lest ye be judged.&#8221; It also says &#8220;he who is without sin, cast the first stone.&#8221; See, Jane, I think I am the person most qualified to know what is the best course of action for me. I&#8217;m going to live without your kind help and I will most certainly let you do the same.<p>Peppermint-See above.<p>NewBeginning- You are absolute correct&#8212;I am a boob and have made amends to the best of my ability to both the posters on this thread and to meara specifically. We all make mistakes and I pray that you will find some small measure of forgiveness for my bumbling ineptness.<p>[ April 10, 2002: Message edited by: diddallas ]</p>