I have noticed how time is flying by so quickly. Since D-day it seems that I blink my eyes and a month has gone by. I am missing out on my "Good Life" and this upsets me. Looking forward to a better life with my W and want it to start....LIKE NOW!!!<p>Life is way too short to spend it on sorting through problems, affairs, work and negative issues. I want to enjoy the days I have left and feel the need to get happiness back in my life. The pain of my W's A has torn me apart and is eating up my time here on earth. <p>My W and I married because we loved each other and wanted to spend our lives togeter. We wanted to be happy!! Many things came between us and our dreams of happiness and these hurdles must be removed. We must find our happiness again.

HI, I noticed your sick and tiredness of living like this... in the misery... you can make it bettter for you ! Plan a you if you are not already. <p>I wanted to mention that an older man at work once befriended me and wanted more... I learned a sad lesson as I enjoyed his friendship and we went out to lunch a lot ... anyway.... he wanted more... well I thought we could be just friends... and when he started trying for more... I was not at all interested... one good thing... his age and his looks made him not for me at all.... but it was just really sad... that he did place a move on me... I do realize that my friendshipwith him and lunches were inapprepriate now.... ande it was during a time when my h was not there for me... I would talk aoubt my h to him... he was a freind... and I thought it was nice to get male opinion... well... how wrong was I... but I ended it all and found myself angry this man wouldnot be my friends.... friend onlyu... he even sent me a christmas card to my home after the lunch engagements stops... I sent him some emails saying how much I valued my H and my family... but what really did it, was I got pregnant... sorry to ramble... but it was annoying at the time.. and I learned a big lesson... luckily I only wanted friendship.
but found that was not even possible.
I enjoyed someone acting as if they cared for me... when my h wasn't acting as if he cared...<p>just to tell you that about the older office man... it reminded me of that horrible experience ... anyway- I think your wife will realize what she really wants , and that uis not some old er man... <p>take care of you anfd be the best person you can be to her... and maybe she will come around sooner than later.<p>H

I Spy I know what you mean about time passing by so quickly. D-day for me was almost 10 months ago but some days it seems like years ago and other days it seems like only minutes. <p>I have learned that I can't make his A the defining point of my life. I've learned to live the "good life" without constant thoughts of him, the OW, the A etc. I was making myself physically sick in the beginning. I wasn't sleeping. I wasn't eating. I spent hours and hours crying and then I decided I wasn't going to allow this to ruin who I am.<p>You need to take back your life and realize that nothing you do/say/think will erase the OM and the A, but you can move past the self torture and find happiness within yourself again. Every day when you awaken just remember who you are and thank God for your blessings. The A will either die or not - it's not within your control. You can only control your own reactions. Good luck to you, I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.<p>[ April 10, 2002: Message edited by: TinyDancer ]</p>