ok this is gonna be a vent so bear with me- i just really need to get this out. <p>i am so tired of everyone in my life. i feel like chucking them all-except you guys, of course. i am always there for everyone-always. yet whenever i need something-its just too much trouble for any of them.<p>this all started because we found out husbands aunt passed and have to drive to ny for wake tonight and funeral tomorrow. its a 2 hour trip each way. i ask everyone to watch kids and come up with a big old we are too busy. my brother is on the top of my sh** list right now. i asked him the other day and he said yes, but that i would try to get someone else because i know this is busy week for him. well i couldnt get anyone else for tonight and called him last night-i got, the more i think about it the more im gonna have to say no. i have stuff going on this weekend and i just cant. we are talking about him being in own house with boys, i would have done all the jockeying. i got a bunch of bull**** excuses. this is normal for him, he is sooooo unreliable. the best is ask me what he is preparing for this weekend?????? he is being ordained a priest !!! how the he** can someone pick that calling and be so selfish???? it amazes me on a daily basis. i always knew my brother was selfish-but i think this goes to new heights. i hope god knows what he is in for with this one!!!<p>so now with no babysitter my husband is insisting on taking boys with us..my youngest is 6. they have never met this aunt-heck i only met her once. and we are gonna show up with our kids. i just think that this is wrong-let alone i think 6 is way tooo young for a funeral. im at a loss.<p>im just so tired of everyone being selfish and me always accomodating. ive had it.<p>sorry- i just needed to vent.

My friend nikko,
If you cant rely on your siblings to piss you off, what can you rely on?<p>Can the kids stay with your parents or a neighbor?<p>-HI

parents live too far away and the only neighbor i trust cant-she is working till midnight. it just amazes me how many selfish people i have surrounded myself with. i am only realizing it now. i need to change this.<p>anyway thanks for the reply. how you doin??

Hi Nikka,
One of my pet peaves. Why is it your responsibility to get a sitter, they are his kids too. Maybe he can find a friend to sit. Just a thought. I know I always handled everything and that was a big mistake. I am learning to not worry so much about things and let him handle it. It's his family too.
Passmeby

Nikko,
Hmm sounds like you are stuck then... Regarding finding new people. Funny you mentioned it, OUR MC says we need to work on finding more good couple friends in our lives. You cant help be influenced by those you spend a lot of time with. Which is true... in my wife's case it was her younger single friends who liked to dance, go clubbing and pick up men. Maybe your hub does hang out with too many selfish guy friends.<p>We are going to do more church events and meet people that way.. maybe that will help some. You two should try it [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>-HI

dear hangin-thanks for the reply again. i wish we had the time to socialize-hubby is gone to much with work. he leaves at 7:30 and doesnt get home till 10 or later. we are lucky to get our alone time. <p>anyway-we took the kids with us. i was not thrilled with taking a 6yr old to a wake, but we had no choice. my son on the other hand thought it was great and announced to his whole class, "daddy took me to see a dead body last night." well im sure everyone in town thinks we are nuts now. i guess i dont have to worry so much about having everyone's kids here all the time now!

gotta love this one- my husband had to take 2 days off of work for the funeral,so he cannot go to my brothers ceremony on sat. he has to work. i just heard from my dad that brother is upset by this. i feel like telling him where he can go. i understand that this is important to him, but his selfishness just kills me. the whole world has to revolve around him. he just doesnt get it. i promised dad i wouldnt say anything to brother, but i swear to god if he opens his mouth about this i may hit him. how mad do you think god will be at me for hitting a newly ordained person???

Serves your brother right!<p>Anyway, it sounds like your 6yo handles it just fine! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] tee-hee.<p>Hoping

Nikko<p>Family--can't live with 'em....can't shoot 'em [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Sorry you are having problems like this that you don't need when also tryin to go thru recovery.<p>I know what you mean though...I have such a hard time saying no when people ask, yet in going thru this separation with my W i have had no one from my family so much as pick up the phone and say--howyadoin?<p>Makes you wonder where people's head are.<p>Keep setting your boundaries...that's what I'm trying to do too.<p>E