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Is it ever ok or advisable to do something even though it may be a LB?
#992249 04/10/02 03:12 PM
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I want to save my marriage still, but W does not seem to want to. I have suggested a couple marriage conferences and when I do, I get the no response response of we'll see, or I don't know or I'll think about it. But when I follow up to see if she wants to later she is put off by it. I know one of her LBs is me "pushing her" to do things she doesnt want to do. But when I get these non committal responses I tend to follow up until I get a response that is concrete.<p>There is a conf. coming up this weekend but no response from her so far. Deadline for registration is tomorrow. Do I bring it up even though it may upset her? I have already mentioned it 2 or 3 times over the past month.<p>JC
Re: Is it ever ok or advisable to do something even though it may be a LB?
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JohnC,<p>Let it go or go by yourself. Your W is not ready yet. Or you could register for both and if she doesn't want to you could go by yourself.<p>Good Luck
-RH-<p>[ April 10, 2002: Message edited by: redhat ]</p>
Re: Is it ever ok or advisable to do something even though it may be a LB?
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JohnC-<p>I think her non-committed answers are an answer in themselves. She doesn't seem to be ready. I'm sorry I don't know your story, but I'll try to look you up so I can give better advice.<p>Having been to one myself, I will tell you this:
If she isn't ready, don't push because even if you get her to go, if her heart isn't in it, it won't do you guys any good, and may cause more anxiety for her, making her more distant and/or upset.<p>Boy what a run-on sentence that was [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Hang in there!!<p>Keep Smiling [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

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