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found out yesterday that wife is planning to move in with OM. That is the final straw for me, no more plan B, I am moving to Plan C (moving on in my life and give up my marriage). <p>I wanted to thank everyone for all their advice over the last 5 months and hope that everyone that is in the situation has a happier end than mine. Atleast I have learned alot and I am a stonger, better person for having gone through this HELL.
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Sorry again Dave, I really do believe it is still only a matter of time before the mass of reality that is building up over your wife causes her fantasy to cave in. Live for yourself and your kids.<p>Keep in touch!<p>-HI
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Dave, so sorry for your pain. I wish strenth and peace for you. Keep posting as you feel the need. There are others that have been where you are. I also know that there are certainly some issues you may need to share. We are still here for you. Take care, and good luck.
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Dave,<p>I am sorry it has come to this. Maybe in the near future she will wake up and see what she is doing. But, no matter I suspect that your life will take a turn for the better. You have a lot of living to do Dave, go do it and enjoy it.<p>God Bless,<p>JL
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Dave-<p>Just wanted you to know that I am thinking of you. I don't know too much about your situation, but I think your sig line explains it very well. Your W really sounds messed up and there doesn't seem like there is much you can do for her right now. Its time for you to take a huge step back and distance yourself from all of this. Let go of W and let God take care of her, that's really all you can do.<p>Stay strong and devote your time right now to you and your kids. Really do let W go, she has to go through this by herself now.<p>Unfortunately, I sometimes think that my W and OM are planning on the same kind of thing. Its so tragic that little kids have to witness this. I know that mine have been devastated by all of this.<p>Remember that we will always be here for you no matter what happens.<p>God Bless you.
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Dave,<p>Plan C is move on and never look back (regret) ... you had done your best and not all M is worth saving. I could not imagine how you could put up this long. You deserve a better mate, good luck and God Bless you.<p>-RH-
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So sorry to hear what's happening. I very much respect and applaud you for your actions to save your marriage and family. It seems like the addiction is too strong. Don't take it personally. Focus on being strong for yourself and your children. I think your wife will understand what she gave up someday. The knowledge you've gained here and from this experience, painful though it is, can be used to create a wonderful relationship in the future. And believe me, if your W doesn't come to her senses, I know you will find a person to share love with one day.
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oops double posted!<p>[ April 11, 2002: Message edited by: espoir ]</p>
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Thanks everyone, I appreciate it so much, all of you have been so nice to me!<p>I know in my heart that I did everything I could do to save this marriage, I may have made some mistakes, not meeting her ENs, durning the marriage but I have really tried to save this, I used every tool available to me, it just wasn't meant to be.<p>I know that I will be fine, I will focus on becoming the best father and person I can be and use the knowledge that I have gained so that someday when I find that special person I will not repeat the the mistakes I have made in the past. After all, life is a learning expeience and we do the best we can everyday. I pray to God to give me strength so that I can be there for my children and to heal my wounds.
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