SHA/TNT-<P>Found out she did go to Fla. with OM-I did some snooping, found out who he was, called him, and he told me. He is a 19 y/o trainee. Started out as friends-one thing led to another, you know the story. I told him at first to end it or i would end his military career before it even started-adultery is a BIG no-no in the military. <BR> BIG LB's-i confronted her with it-not yelling, just told her i knew, why didn't she just tell me, etc. <BR> I got legal counselling yesterday, then went to the marriage counselor, then told W i couldn't be married and have her in a relationship-told her that i felt the way to go was a Divorce. <BR> She tried to put me on a guilt trip by saying just take the kids, take everything, and she would go off and live off of welfare.<BR> Told her that's not what i want-i just want the pain to stop.<BR> I keep going to her work at the coffee shop and confronting her- it's to the point now that if i try to go there, they will throw me out. I deserve this.<BR> We talked this morning-after i went to her work, she wanted to leave early because i upset her a couple hours earlier. We ended up talking- i tried to deposit some LU's, but withdrew some too. I told her i loved her, always would, but wasn't sure if i could keep going with the images i had in my head. We ended the conversation with her telling me that one of us needed to make the decision-basically to end it. She told me she loved me, always would, started to cry and took my hand, the first time she has touched me in two weeks. She's been staying with a W friend, and i talked to her for a couple of hours this am. Gave me my W's viewpoint on some things, which helped i guess.<BR> I am at a point of where i am so hurt i am willing to contemplate divorce-i don't want it, but i won't stop it from happening unless she says stop it. The marriage counselor said that although she didn't support divorce or seperation a constructive solution, it might teach her a lesson-she is completely financially irresponsible, and only works part time. The counselor and even some of her friends think that is would wake her up to how much she needs me, and how hard life would be trying to live off of what the court would require me to pay her. The problem is, i don't think i can do this as a seperation, i feel right now it's all or nothing, either she makes a big effort to make it work, or divorce.<BR>