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#992710 04/12/02 09:32 AM
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I'd like to hear from people who stuggle with picking apart and analyzing conversations, emails, and other interactions that they had with their partners (whether it's a spouse or an OM/OW)...trying to figure out what they really meant; what could you have done or said differently, etc., etc. How long does it take to get to the just "accept it", "let go" and "move on" phases?<p>And how do you keep strong? How do you keep from giving in to your "need" and/or "desire" to be in touch with someone who has told you it's time to move on?

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Chin up! You will rise above this.<p>Ok, I think this is where the whole MB plan A comes into affect. It's about you! Working on you and making life about you. So, I would suggest to start there. Find ways to find you and to make you happy and alive and feel good about YOU.<p>One thing I will say for certain, that I have found in a few different situtations to be true, is that you have to ALLOW it to go away. The harder you try to get rid of these feelings, these thoughts, the more they will taunt you and hold tighter on your heart. Simply accept that it may never fully go away. It may always be in the back of your mind somewhere, but you can rise above it. Once you do that you can begin to allow it to ease and subside. And it will too! It may take some time, but that's ok, as long as you know you are strong enough to rise above it in the end - and I believe you are.<p>Maybe you could try some inspiring books. I've not always been the "book reader" type, but I have found one book that seems to be really helping my inner spirit. I have come to have a very positive outlook the past week or so, and I think it has also helped in my rebuilding. It's called Healing for Damaged Emotions by David A. Seamands. I'm sure there are others here who may be able to recommend more. <p>I wish you well, and send you some strength to start your journey with. Stick around here too, this place can be very helpful many times, and often give you that little extra boost you just might need. Take care, and have faith. You are one of God's children, you are strong, and you will rise above this. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]


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