no remorse and rubbing your face in it; that is what bothers me the most. I struggle to pull myself back under the umbrella of Marriage Builder principles, while I want to reach out and throttle him and give you a good solid injection of self-worth... [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] <p>He can only pull off what he is doing, with apparent intention, because your life revolves around him. For example, who is taking care of the babies while you are following him around?<p>I don't know how to kindly take you by the shoulders and say,
"Pull yourself together - if you won't for you, at least start because of your children - doing it for you will come, I promise!"<p>I went and read through your history and can see how he gets away with bullying you. <p>Please look in the mirror - into your eyes. See your soul. See your capacity for love. Then see that you are worth protecting. And then you will see that his affair is all about him and says NOTHING about who you are. Right now, you are taking his cruelty personally - that's how bullies and perps continue to get off scot free! We take mean people personally. <p>Can you step back from him, and recognize the separate-ness of his behavior from what defines you as a woman? If you can't right now, that's ok. He's invested many years grooming you to believe exactly that your worth is defined by him. I totally support and encourage you finding a therapist who can help you find your own worth so that you can then make a decision from a place of equality about your marriage.
