Hi all! Remember me? One of the Redbook riff-raffers. I just wanted to stop in to say hello and tell you that I'm moving forward and doing really well.<p>I decided about a month ago that I needed to get the ball rolling and start living a little more. So instead of coming here and talking myself silly about the end of my marriage, I went over to Match.com and started meeting people. I realized how hard it is to be a single, stay at home mom to two very small children while living in the "very married" suburbs of NYC. I wasn't meeting anyone except other moms. Well, now I have and it's just what I needed. I'm not jumping into anything too quickly though.<p>I'm afraid of being hurt again but I've put my heart out there and we'll see what happens. There actually is life after affairs and divorce and I think it's gonna be ok. I've met some really nice men who actually think I'm pretty wonderful. A huge contrast to the person I was married to.<p>It took a full two years (April 22, 2000 was D-day) to get to this place. I've emerged from the cocoon (FINALLY). It was the most painful and dark experience too. I know there are going to be rough spots and storms along the way but now I know that I really can come through anything.<p>Love to you all!<p>BB

BB,<p> Absolutely I remember you. I am glad to hear you are moving forward and getting on with living. Those bumps will start to crop up less and less. <p> I wish you all the best. And, ask that you not be a stranger. Stop in when you can.<p> jd

Not only have you emerged from your cocoon .... you've grown butterfly wings and now you can FLY!<p>Love to you, <p>Pepper [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img]

thanks BB, I too, have seen match.com and thought ab out it... still married, and still trying...it has been 7 mmonths... considering filing at 1 yr. mark? who knows... I think h wants to come home.. but not yet... very difficult... I do realize I deserve more... but I want to save what I have.<p>COngrats for moving on, good luck to you and your future. H