I need some advice. I have been out of my house for 2.5 months. WS has filed, I want to save our marriage. Somehow, I still love yer. Her relationship with OM seems stronger than ever and she continues to involve my 3 and half year old son with OM during her alloted time. Very confusing for my son.<p>The first couple of months, I found support from family and spent most of time in that cacoon with and without my son (her parents and sisters have rallied around me too).<p>After she picked up my son this past Saturday morning and the door shut, I came to this huge reality that I had no life outside of the infrastructure I had built with my WS and son (other than work of course) over the years. I invested myself totally in them and forgot about me. That is now destroyed and I am alone. I have no real friends outside of my WS..she not interested in friendship at this point, and I am tired of the realitives perspective. <p>Many thoughts, none of them good ones, are going through my mind. I guess this is a form of depression. I am trying very hard not to feel sorry for myself and get out of the house. I am lost, I want my family back. I am losing all hope for that and myself.<p>I hate being alone.

Hey Focused,<p>I understand your situation... I don't feel I had NO life outside my M, but my M did consume most of me... But when life hands you lemons... so I've taken this opportunity to reinforce my life outside of WW. I've taken some initiative to broaden myself, and it's made me feel more confident, which in turn is noticed by WW.<p>You should consider getting involved outside your bubble... look into community activities, volunteering, etc. I joined a hiking group, so I can meet people AND get some good exercise!!<p>The bottom line is that if there's something in your life you're unhappy about, taking that initiative to change it for the better is very much a Plan A activity. It's a good life lesson, although not always easy.

Yes, I understand, but I don't feel very social.<p>Time will heal, I know.<p>Thanks!