Wow. Another surreal conversation with WW (check out my earlier post "WW spills beans..." :<p>WW to BS: "You know. I'm not giving up this man up".<p>BS to WW: "I see."<p>WW to BS: "But I was thinking. I'm not 100% sure I want him to be his SO or marry him. But you've been so hurt by this. I've got an idea. Why don't you let me see him 3 more months so I can decide? Meanwhile, I'll really go out of my way to make you comfortable and meet your needs: I'll cook more meals, watch the kids more, give you more free time, whatever (hint, hint)."<p>BS to WW: "No thanks. I think we need to talk more." <p>BS to himself: "...that would would be meeting my needs??!!! What about TAKING CARE TO PROTECT MY FEELINGS AND SHOWING SOME RESPECT??!!!!"<p>Oh well. Spoke to Dr. Harley last night. Good conversation. Looks like Plan B is coming sooner rather than later. WW is eating so much cake she might have go to the emergency room. Time to put her on a diet.

Ouch! Mark, it sure sounds like it's time for Plan B...how long have you been Plan Aing? Any progress in some areas?

**MARK**<p>Call the fire department and ask if they would consider coming to your house to use the jaws of life to extract your wife's head, because it's certainly stuck firmly up her .....(?).... (sorry) [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Hang in there.<p>Plan B ... yes indeedy! Be sure you've plan A'd fully first.<p>Best of luck.<p>Pepper [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img]

Mark,<p>It seems to me that your wife is the world's biggest idiot or she absolutely does not care how she is disrespecting you, humiliating you and putting your health at risk. Talk about a self-centered individual. Tell me again why you wish to spend the rest of your life with such a person? Why would you wish to settle for this?

Hey Mark,<p>Once again, I can relate... At one point earlier on, WW said something to the effect, "If I leave and hate it, can I come back in 6 months?" Pardon!!??!? My response was "I don't know", and that's when the fence sitting began in earnest.<p>On about 3 different occassions, WW has also said that she wishes she could have BOTH of us. Even joked about some societies that allow women to have >1 husband. Ha, ha. Really funny stuff I tell ya.<p>Plan B... you've done all the reading here, right? There's some good notable posts on this stuff.

OK, let me get this straight. She will do all of these nice things for you if you let her see the OM for 3 more months. I think it is time to tell her what she can do with all of that cake other than eat it. <p>She did give you some very useful info in that talk though. She basically said that she does not want him forever. Seems as though the fantacy may be ending. I heard from my WH while in the last stages of Plan A that while a year ago he was sure that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with OP that he did not think so anymore but he was not ready to give her up. How fast did I run to Plan B? He was so comfortable that I would not walk that he actually told me this much like what your WW told you. That told both Steve H. and I that Plan B was needed and could be very useful. He was being disrespectful of me and I was no longer willing to stand by and let him cintinue to gain weight with all of this cake eating. By the way, while I have lost almost 90 pounds since d-day, he has gained 60. It must be the cake. <p>Hang in there and get ready for the Plan B ride. It is much less bumpy than the Plan A ride after you forget about what they are or are not doing and concentrate on you.

J.R., the parallels continue. I've gotten the polygamy wacky line too.<p>Plan A since early March. Avoiding LB's is fine, but meeting EN's (affection, verbal) difficult as OM is already there and then I'm contending with resentment at the same time--a common difficulty, I'm sure. Just paying attention to how he may be meeting them--while trying to tolerate in-your-face attitude.<p>Bryanp, the take-no-crap poster, you do have your points. I'll have to tell you, her own mother's opinions make yours seem absolutely flattering. Trust me, though, she does have plenty of good points--when not channelling.