I have been reading a lot regarding Plan A. I am the WS. My XH is currently dating someone (for almost 2 months now) and I have expressed that I would like to reconcile if that is possible. He is considering it. <p>Since my XH is in a R, I feel that I need to begin my own Plan A. How do you balance working on yourself, not being to anxious about reconciliation, but at the same time trying to meet his ENs?<p>I live 4 hours away - how do I try to meet his ENs and do things for him (ideas that have been given are sending flowers, call him at work, etc.)??? Do I continue to offer to come down for the weekends? Or just wait until he asks, if he asks? I don't want to push him, but I want him to know I am sincere and will do whatever I need to. <p>I guess I am just confused as to how I can do things for him (from the suggestions, it almost seems as if I do things as if we were dating), but remain somewhat distant and kind of get on with my life without him while I am waiting?<p>Thanks!!!

NC20505,<p>Plan A is about you, get nothing to do with no LB or filling EN's. Plan A is to show to your xH that you are a changed woman. No LB is a requirement for any relationship. About fillin EN's, is how much your xH allows you to fill in. I suggest you call him as much as he allows you or ask him if he mind about it. You have to be extremely sensitive about it. xH might say yes but his body language show different reactions ... read his actions not his words. Same rule apply with other actions to fill in his ENs.<p>IMVHO. You are now a OW for his new R. Don't you want him to break clean in his R before you are persuing him ?. Just my 2¢.