Hi all,
Many of you may not remember me. Brief History:
Husband's abusive behaviors drove me to this site as I felt more and more neglected, unhappy, and taken advantage of in my marriage.
A year of MB and husband didn't budge an inch, just soaked up my efforts with no return or change on his part.
A year of therapy, and I have worked on myself and my behaviors to eliminate bad behaviors/reactions, false guilt, and now see a little more clearly the manipulation he tries.
So the Discovery...
Just discovered through credit card receipts that husband is answering personal ads.<p>Recent comings and goings of said husband have included time gaps where he could have met someone for an hour or two. (Or even a couple of full evenings)<p>Dilemma,
Don't know whether the man was stupid thinking I wouldn't see the charges. (I pay the bills now)
Wonder if it is manipulation - him trying to make me angry and suck me back into conflict - his style of conflict where people have screaming arguments.<p>Any advice?

/\/\/\ bumping this one up for Anne.<p>L.

ummm... taking a stab here... <p>Have you asked him about the charges?<p>Has he been to counseling with you? Does he know the "abusive" behaviors that make withdrawals from your Love Bank? (Love Busters)