Veterans-<p>Monday will be one year since I found concrete proof of my W's A (D-Day #1). For those of you have been down this road, what do you do on this "anniversary"? A celebration certainly doesn?t seem to be the answer.<p>She doesn't like to talk about us, and so for the last 6 months I haven't brought up the topic. But it seems that we should do a little preventative maintenance once in a while (checking in on her needs, etc.).<p>So I bought "Love Busters" (Hoping we can read the book together) and am going to get her a rose. I want to sit down and have a heart-to-heart, but am looking for advise on how to get her to open up. <p>Her solution to any problem is to just ignore it and pretend like nothing is wrong. From reading the forum over the past year this seems to be common. I just want to be close to her, and to prevent another A.<p>What do you all think?<p>Kale

Well, from my perspective I wouldnt celebrate it on the exact date.....but possibly the following weekend make a date with her.....bring her flowers, etc.....and bring out all the positive things about your marriage and how glad you are to be together etc.<p>I wouldn't even bring up the date as being the D-Day anniversary. She may or may not realize its the date.... but its not a happy memory for either of you...and you are past it.<p>just my 2 cents........ good luck.... [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

I wouldn't (and don't) bring up the date or the A memories either.<p>Roses are always nice...as long as they aren't apology roses ("I did something stupid and these roses are to make up for it") but that isn't the case with you.<p>An idea: take her hands in yours, look into her eyes and say "I want you to know that I feel very fortunate we are together and I love you very much."

Yesterday was our d-day date... we didn't talk about it...<p>...but there was a gentleness from both of us to each other... lots of touching and hugs...<p>I had talked to him a few weeks ago about how I was feeling plus that it would be my 'hormonally challenged' week and I could tell that he really made an effort to help me out...<p>Hugs...
Cali

Thanks all for your input. I haven't known exactly what to do, and although I have been feeling anxiety (or maybe it's depression brought about by not-so-fond memories) about the 1 year, I wasn't sure rather or not to bring it up.<p>I am thinking I will just take her on a date, give her the rose, and tell her how happy I am to be with her. I suppose the best approach is just openly read the book (maybe I could get her to read it too), and move on with life.<p>Perhaps she realizes what day of the year it is..or maybe not. Either way we should just celebrate that we are still together! [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img]