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My W feels like if she ends the A, she "will die". She feels that even if she does end it, she will always feel the way she does now towards OM. She says she knows what she needs to do (no contact) but can't. She says she wants to save our family, but...<p>I asked her if she would be willing to have email contact with FWS's so they could share how they got through this and she said yes. So anyone out there willing to share your story with her?<p>Mail me at baffled10@hotmail.com. Thanks.
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didn't you post this request before?
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Not me, maybe someone else?
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I would be happy to talk to your wife if you like. I have been with out OM for over two years, although I do have to have contact we share a child, but we are not in a relationship and do not see each other socially at all.
And reguardless of the fact that we fell or fall so hard for that other person .. you do realise what is really important and come back to earth, sometimes it is just a long process.
I dont want to post my whole story here but if you like your wife , can email me.
momuvfive2000@yahoo.com
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I would be happy to e-mail with your wife. I am a (very recent) FWW - having ended my A 6 weeks ago - I am pretty new at all of this...but maybe that would be a good perspective with her? Is your wife a Christian? (just curious as to how to approach her when writing). <p>If your story is somewhere on the board, can you e-mail me a link so I can read about it? or perhaps just e-mail it to me and some basics about your situation? Thanks! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>My e-mail address is: NC20505@netzero.net
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This is great that former WW are stepping up to the plate...could it be we now have a former WW support group?<p>I would LOVE for my W to interact/talk, if she'd do it...
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Baffled, I sent you an email, but I am leaving to go out of town tomorrow for five days. I will be more than happy to chat with her when I get back, if she still needs someone. I talk with another WW on here via email, and it is very nice to have someone to confide to, that you know won't look down on what you tell them. They have "walked in your shoes" so to speak.
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by Baffled:<p>I am also a recently former ws. (8 weeks without OM) I completely understand how your W feels and I'd be very happy to talk with her and try to help her see beyond today and move past her OM and all those mixed up emotions.<p>I will send her an email.
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My FWW can be reached at the email in my signature. She has expressed the same interest in wanting some sort of mentor.<p>We are also in the early stages of recovery so she may also be able to assist those that have yet to realize you can live, and prosper, without the OM.
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Baffled, I also sent you an email. But I will post here also. I would love to talk to your W. I am 7 months into recovery and doing wonderfully. But we all could use a little support. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Mr Bunky or Spacecase, I would love to talk to your FWW's also. My email address is in my sig line. Or any other WW/FWW's for that matter. It's a long and lonely road to recovery. And it helps to know you are not the only one. <p>1step
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Thank you 1Step. If my W ever espresses the need/desire, I will keep you in mind.
I've already told her there are some people willing to share their experiences with her, but she hasn't acted on it yet...patience.
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Spacecase, I will always be here, even if I am not on MB anymore. I will always try to help. <p>What I did was a terrible thing. Not only have I learned from my mistakes, but I would like to help other people by teaching them what I have learned. Maybe something positive will come from all this.<p>1step
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