This is interesting, yesterday I was messing around on the computer & went into a chat room (only for a look)said a quick hello to someone (I don't really like chat rooms much, ya never know who u could b talkin to.<p>Anyway I went out last nite & when i came home I checked on the computer to see if H had been into the marriage builders site,clicked on the properties & he hadn't but he had looked into the chat site i had used. Now why would someone who doesn't give a s**t about his wife bother to look in the history to see what his W is up to (I consider myself the BS as he has a femail friend which has caused such bad problems in our marriage that we are now seperating in a few days)
By the way he wouldn't have looked at the marriage builders site i don't believe because he want's out & he isn't interested in it. What are your thoughts on this.

I don't know if you want to me say what I really think ... do you?

Oh heck ...<p>Wrungout,<p>I was thinking he was checking the history on the PC to make sure he covered his own tacks, and while there discovered your activity.<p>But Wrungout, you should be concentrating on your Plan A. I know snooping is necessary to verify the A is on-going ... just don't let any of this discovery stuff keep you from working on yourself, Hon. <p>I know it's easy to give advice, I had members telling me the same stuff, but I didn't follow everything they recommended, some of it is so damn hard.<p>Lv,
Jo<p>[ May 02, 2002: Message edited by: Resilient ]</p>

Hi resilient!
Nope I wasn't snooping I just found it interesting why he would be interested in what I am looking at for myself on the computer seeing as he doesn't care what I do, doesn't love me da da da da & all that other crap.
If he doesn't care why would he click on the chat room history & leave the marriage builders site alone?? Just curious that's all.
I know he has done this before I found out he didn't love me etc etc but can't understand why he would be remotely interested in looking into a chat room i had been in??

Wrungout,<p>It's more than okay to snoop, most times it very necessary, unfortuntely. <p>Yeah, I wonder if he's all done w/you, why would he be following your activity in a chat room. It is contradictory.<p>Jo

Thats what I thought but then this man of mine has turned into someone i don't know. For instance the other day he said this about the guy that has bought our farm it wnet like this.
"That guy doesn't need to think that I am leaving any of that firewood here when I go" (there is a huge & I mean huge pile of uncut firewood in the paddock & h reckoned he was going to cart it all away or burn it)
Then yesterday a complete 180 turn when the guy & his W came to check the property out for their furniture. They asked where could they order some firewood in & H said oh there will be plenty of dry wood in the woodshed, I hope to god i didn't stand there with my mouth wide open but it was sure what i felt i must have been doing. It's weird totally weird! He seems to think that everyone is out to get him...But at the same time he also acts like he's just moving on with his life, organising the horses laughing & talking to people (that he likes of course)

wrungout,
Sometimes WS do the darndest things. In our 6th separation, when I quite naturally didn't think my H gave a hoot about me, he was in my house with our kids, and went all through my email filing cabinet. And, I hadn't realized that even though I deleted stuff I had read, sometimes it was there. <p>And since I was developing an inappropriate relationship with a male friend...H was angry upset with ME. You understand...the man who had left me & his kids 6 times, and would do it once more was upset because I was flirting in email. Not that I should have been...I'm not saying I was right, this is just what happened.<p>I do think that is when he realized that I wasn't going to do Plan A forever, I was reaching the end.<p>6 months later we reconciled for good.

Well I just gotta say WHERE THERE"S LIFE THERE"S HOPE! & I will just keep plan Aing as best as possible in this situation & hope that when he gets to the other side of the fence that the grass hasn't turned brown...Buut he already knows that when he leaves it's going to b plan B