I revealed to my wife of 26 years that I had extra-marital sexual encounters with two OM. None of these could be classifed as A, but more of casual fling.
The disclosure, was not natural and a difficult circumstance of accusation of A with another OM forced me to disclose.
I still love my wife very dearly and the encounters mentioned were in the way past 20 to 10 years.
Can any one suggest as to how I can help my wife overcome her feelings of betrayal and cheating. I am very pained to see her going through intense suffering for the past one year. She refuses to either seek professional help or share her pain with near and dear ones.
Looking forward to get some friendly advises. [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img]

Hi & welcome to MB. You still had an A (several As). Learn and read here what your betrayal did to you and your family. Then you need to get counseling so as to know how to understand and deal with your W's feelings. <p>Understand that you can not control how she feels toward. There is nothing worse a mate can do than betray the trust, love and respect within the marital arrangement. <p>Phone counseling with Steve or Jennifer may help. You may need closer counseling. While your situation is a bit different, your actions still show betrayal. What it will take to restore the trust in your W is your personal challenge. Does she have the right to be upset with you? For how long? Those are questions that you 2 must answer together. There is no such thing as 'getting over it in a snap'. This betrayal took time and the recovery will take even longer but if your family is important to you, it will be worth all the time it takes. <p>Read up on the concepts section above. <p>L.