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D-day was April 19, so not very long ago. H has stopped contact w/OW and says he wants to try. Sometimes he showers me w/attention, sometimes he's very distant. I guess that's withdrawal.<p>Here's the deal. Sometimes he says he doesn't think we can work it out, but most of the time he talks about future, etc. like nothing has happened. Example: he wants us to plan a vacation to Mexico in July. So it seems like he's planning on sticking around, but then sometimes he says stuff to the contrary. I feel like he's messing with my mind...
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Yes it's 'normal' in that some times it goes like that. Sounds like both of you are on a roller coaster. <p>Have you pointed out to him that he is doing this and the confusion/pain it is causing you. It's really kind of cruel of him to do this. <p>He needs to either commit to giving you 100% or move on. But it looks like he needs some time to get there. Put a time limit on it. <p>In the mean time, keep improving your Plan A and take care of yourself.
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Just bumpin' this up...would like some more thoughts on this question.
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Yes, I think it is withdrawal. Expect him to waffle and expect him to grieve the loss of the relationship with the OW. You need to let him know however that he needs to stop the waffling because you have no idea where you stand with him when he does that. Is it normal? Yes it is. You still need to keep putting love deposits in his love bank so keep up with Plan A.
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