I spite of everything I know about W's involvement with OM, I always had my doubts. Maybe it was denial on my part, but mostly I thinks it's because I tend to see things as black or white, and without an admission or catching them together, I've been in that grey area of uncertainty, a place I'm not comfortable in.
However, her bahavior these past 6 months since she filed has only reinforced what I already knew.<p>A couple of days ago a buddy called and had 2 extra tickets to the Cubs game. I made some calls and got my BIL to go with me. Found out from him that my W was livid about it. She doesn't want anyone in her family talking to me (I guess she's worried I'll spill the beans). She got into an argument about it with my SIL. SIL told my W that her H and I are friends and can do whatever we want together.<p>Behavior like this as well as her lack of taking any steps with the D indicate that she's scared and that I was right all along. SH made the analogy that my W's in a minefield and is affraid that any step she takes could blow up in her face. Does this make sense? Is this common WS behavior?<p>sad dad

Hopefully, some WSs will respond, but I think it's common based on what I've read on this forum.<p>My X directed my in-laws not to communicate with me. Unfortunately, they seem not to have the good sense of your SIL and have ostracized me.<p>But here's the really tough question for you: Why would you want to go see the Cubbies? Were they playing the Braves?<p>WAT

WAT,<p>Born and raised in Chicago, so I bleed Cubbie blue. Being a Cub fan is like being a BS, always high hopes but usually disappointment.<p>My BIL told me that none of my SIL's really understand what's happening. W has left them all in the dark and doesn't talk about us or the D.
This isn't the first time she's gotten angry about me doing something with her family. I couple of months ago I made plans with another BIL to take our daughters to the museum. Her reaction was the same. If she has nothing to hide.....well, you get my point. <p>sad dad

Hi SD- Well I think you are right about your W's defensive behavior. On the Today show they are doing an all-week series on infidelity andt he investigation firms say that a spouse's gut feeling that their spouse is cheating is usually accurate 85% of the time. Although others may disagree with me, I think that you have the right to tell any of your relatives or in-laws about your W's behavior. I think it brings some light into the dark secret that the WS expects the BS to keep. I figured if my WS was SO hell-bent on divorcing me against my will then whatever I said about him was fair game. However, I didnt expect my BIL to talk him out of his A, that would be expecting TOO much! Enjoy that CUBS game!!! lifeismessy

sad dad,<p>Any date yet for your mediation ?. We will pray for you ... take care. -RH-

lim,<p>It was that "gut" feeling that made me check her cell phone Jan '01 only to find OM's number stored. My BIL knows the whole story, the rest of her family has their suspicions. For the most part I've kept them out of this only because blood is thicker than water. This whole thing will be coming to a head very soon one way or another.<p>red,<p>The first mediation session is two weeks from
today.<p>sad dad<p>[ May 09, 2002: Message edited by: sad dad ]</p>