I've wanted to start a thread like this but felt guilty doing it in GQII for reasons listed below (which I will leave for now). I also knew that it would not get much response in any other forum. So with Marie's help to assuage my guilt, I am using this thread (which started with my asking for Marie's email address) to SEEK MOVIE IDEAS.

It's the weekend and my H and I want to go to a movie or rent one. He likes action adventure/war movies and I like romantic comedies. (We both liked the "Lethal Weapons" movies and also the "Back to the Future" series although it's the only sorta sci-fi I enjoy....don't like Star Wars/Trek etc. for some reason.)

Any suggestions for new or old movies with a similar combination?

Here's a couple other qualifiers for me that might show what's worked for us in the past.

I can watch 'based on true story' war movies (Saving Private Ryan ----hands over ears/eyes first 30 min.--- Blackhawk Down, Hotel Rwanda, etc.). He says he will go see any chick flick I want to see, but it's hard to pay that much money to have to observe him in such pain watching "How to lose a guy in 10 days" or "Maid in Manhattan" or "Sleepless in Seattle"...my kind of sappy romance.

I did go with DDS, DDD and H to see one of the Star Trek movies just for family bonding time.....but it turned ugly when I fell asleep and began to snore!

What Action/Romance movies have you been able to go to a theater or watch at home together?

EDITED TO ASK: What sports movies (based on true stories) are inspiring?

e-mail sent!

Hi Marie,

I replied to you by editing my original request so I would not bump this and possibly move a genuine call for help down the thread-line into oblivion.

I cannot believe that nearly 70 people have viewed this, possibly since your esteemed (not to mention highly-regarded, larger-than-life) name is on it. (Before you left for LV, I said you were my hero....remember?)

I know you're always looking for some positive to come out of a neutral or negative scenario, so I have a question I'd like to pose to you, or any MB poster who might have an opinion.

Marie, you are the seasoned, successful, veteran pro, and I am the fledgling rookie just starting recovery. We both acknowledge that we see things differently but now I'm curious about your thoughts on this question:

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Should a call for personal contact like this thread be steered towards the OT forum so it does not 'bump' a bonafide call for help (and its associated urgencies) by being posted on the GQII forum?

What about fun, chatty, non-urgent-just-shootin-the-breeze threads that many of us need and enjoy but I sometimes feel guilty posting to due to the affect of my 'bump' on someone who's GQII thread might fly down the page faster? Should those be located on the OT forum as well?

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I first thought of it last week when MF was exposing live and in color, but moved most of her posting over to the Recovery forum thread, alleviating GQII "speedy bumps" (I just made that term up!) I noticed that two Recovery or JFO posters commented about disappearing threads on GQII at the time so I sent a note to MB mods, suggesting the use of the OT forum for non-urgent threads.

Justuss replied that it was an admin decision. So I sent a message to Dr. and Mrs. Harley but have not heard back yet. I realize they're far to busy to be dealing with something as trivial as this.

But is it so trivial? Would more hurting people get better help sooner if non-urgent threads were posted on the OT forum instead of GQII?

Just wondering what you (Marie) or anyone else thinks?

Ace

Ace-- If you had posted to me on the OT forum, I never would have noticed your call for help.

Your questions deal with inifidelity-- and so it is my humble opinion that the GQ forum (on the infidelity board) is the place for you to post.

Besides, doesn't GQ stand for "general questions?"... meaning this board is for general questions r/t infidelity?

Personally, I don't get so caught up in who is posting where. Years ago when I was a regular poster on these forums, I was posting 99.9% in the Recovery Forum (and rarely visited GQ).

I would guess that most posters would see your "call out" as appropriate HERE (in this particular forum). How else could you have been certain that I would see it?!

Now, if you posted a question in this forum re: Nike running shoes -vs- Mizuno's-- causing appropriately titled threads to disappear from the page-- I could understand why certain posters would be concerned. BUT, that isn't the case here... So don't worry your pretty little head. It's all good!

As for fun threads, WE ALL NEED FUN (never underestimate the power of humor)!

~Marie

Thanks for your insight, Marie. Looking forward to hearing more when you can spare the time.

Any movie ideas combining Action/Adventure and Romantic Comedy themes?

Ace

Con Air - great action, great cast.

Cameron Poe tries to get home to his wife and the daughter he has only seen pictures of and written to from jail. A very touching scene when they meet the first time.

Here are a few that come to mind.

The Fifth Element
Any James Bond movie, the older the better
Pirates of the Caribbean
Gladiator
Spider Man
Unforgiven
True Lies
Heartbreak Ridge
Terminator
Two Mules for Sister Sara

Can you tell I don't get around to many new releases? DH and I mostly watch comedy anyways.

Lord of the Rings Trilogy
Mission Impossible 3
Pearl Harbor
Facing the Giants
Bourne Identity series

Ooh, Bourne Identity! Good choice!

You could try 'Gone with the wind' of course,
or another oldie " Doctor Zhivago",
"Casablanca",
"The Princess Bride"
'The Great Raid' or
'High Road to China'
The Sound of Music


will have to ask my DD she goes to the movies.... [I just wash dishes & change nappies] <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

I will toss out a few.

As mentioned yesterday:

Open Range (great western with Robert Duvall and Kevin Costner)

Rob Roy (better than Braveheart with Liam Neeson and Jessica Lange)

The 13th Warrior (East meets North circa 1100)

Last of the Mohicans (great movie)

The Burbs (Tom Hanks, Carrie Fisher, Bruce Dern very, very funny)

Big Trouble in Little China (Kurt Russell in an action/romance cult classic)

definately gladiator! to me the most romantic....what that man did for the love and honor of his family!!! where can i get me a man like that???lol

Coach "C",

Where did you list movies yesterday? Sorry, I missed it, trying to find Marie to tell her that if I disappeared (due to med condition) that it was not because her post upset me.

But I'm back and now I have to get to work so I'll check in tonight.

Thanks, AlllLLL!

Ace

Sahara - and it is funny to boot!

I love The Matrix trilogy.

Top Gun anyone??

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That was one of the earliest movies to make an affair look like a beautiful thing.

Hidalgo

Viggo Mortensen ... 'nuff said

yummmmmmmmmy

I just watched Hidalgo on AMC (or TCM, can't remember which) and loved it. Really inspiring and I LO LO LO LO LOVE Viggo Mortensen. He's got a great voice!

Going way back, I love "Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid" (Redford/Newman). I also like "The Great Escape" (Steve McQueen). Any Hitchcock film has drama, intrigue, the suave leading man, seductive leading lady, and mystery. Can you tell I like old movies?

Have you seen Thomas crown affair? I really like it....

We decided to play Upwords tonight instead of a movie, but Lost in the World, we both enjoyed the Thomas Crown Affair.....and The Count of Monte Cristo.....and Armageddon (sp?)....

....and we both actually like inspirational stories like Power of One......Rudy......Radio.....Remember the Titans.....and even some of the Rocky movies.

Any other good 'based on a true story' inspirational films? I'm still looking for action/romance ones, too.

Thanks,

Ace

Cold Mountain

King Kong!!!!!

All the Pretty Horses

Romancing the Stone

Superman Returns

The Bourne Identity

Catch Me If You Can

The Mask

Fun with [censored] and Jane

The Perfect Storm

North by Northwest

Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (REALLY!)

Hotel Rwanda

Braveheart

Spider Man
Spider Man 2

The Mexican

Raiders of the Lost Ark

When I finally watched "Mr & Mrs Smith" I actually enjoyed in spite of Brad and Angie's real lives.

Man....Mates.....great list! Thanks. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

How 'bout inspirational 'based on true story' movies? Any others in addition to the ones I mentioned above?

Still looking for action/adventure/romance movie ideas.

Ace

Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind is a great movie, dealing with the feelings that we all have during this at one time or another. I saw that movie before all of this started happening, and refer to it a lot. I would rather keep my memories...

"The Straight Story" is inspirational and based on a true story, but I wouldn't consider it very action packed or romantic. I loved it anyways.

Before you took the 'inspirational' bend, I was going to suggest "Romancing the Stone".

Our family enjoyed Facing the Giants recently. Inspirational and very little romance - but sweet.

BTW --- has anyone noticed how every movie and TV jokes or glamorizes As?

We need to start a letter to go to all of the major producers in Hollywood explaining the devestation of As and asking them to not glamorize or joke about them. Isn't Mulan a writer? Maybe someone else has industry ties that can get this seen?

What do you think?

lilmom

The Life of David Gale has his wife leave him because of one. It shows him crying on the phone.

Fatal Attraction was pretty cool too.

dont know if you have seen A Night With The King... Based on Esther.... I really enjoyed it..... Also the more recent movie on Johnny Cash was pretty good too..... i think it was called Walk The Line.... French Kiss with Meg Ryan and Only You with Robert Downey Jr were both cute romances with a lot of running around type scenes.... i will keep on thinking of others too....

The African Queen is a classic.

Great ideas....my new laptop has a dvd player so I may check some of these out to find the ones H would enjoy, too.

I don't watch TV much but H watches the Discovery channel....Survivorman, Dirty Jobs and Myth Busters and, of course ESPN. But he will turn any show off immediately if I mention something that might require his full attention or an indepth discussion.

That's one of the reasons I'm trying to find movies we can both enjoy. He is making so many changes that I appreciate, including going to a new/old MC (who H balked at seeing after D-Day 1 because MC and H had become such good friends 20+ years ago, even though we later moved and sort of lost touch.) But H said he'll watch whatever I pick out.....

...So please keep the movie ideas coming:

* Action Adventure with Romance <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

* Inspirational adventure based on a true story <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/ooo.gif" alt="" />

* Romantic comedy w/a bit of intriguing adventure (ala "Heart & Soul"...I loved that movie & H tolerated it well.) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Thanks,
Ace

Romancing the Stone

Crocodile Dundee

Heart Like a Wheel- The Shirley Muldowney Story

Man on Fire (the Denzel Washington version)--pretty gritty

Bwhaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
ROFLMAO

haaaaaaaaaaaa

this is just funny

Hey Pep,

You're right, it is funny to think that somehow our pain of infidelity might challenge and win over the power of the almighty buck. But it's also sad that many of us (me included) have subsidized that industry by paying for what they've served over the years.

Lilmom's suggestion, while seeming humorously impossible, has been attempted by many, some more successfully than others. What is so sad is how our world has changed to the point where we as a society seem to want more of what is actually destroying us and many are paying big bucks for it.

Several of the movies listed by all of us above include portions that could be Exhibit A (as in 'display #1, AND "A" for AFFAIRS)....and we listed them in spite of their content based on our values of them in our lives at one time or another. Right or wrong, we choose....and that's one of the joys (which often leads to pain) of living in America.

But since this is a lighthearted movie thread veering towards heavier social issues in movies, I encourage Lilmom to see "The Power of One". Mel Gibson's "Passion of the Christ" is another example of how one person's $heer determination against numerous odd$ can produce a $uccessful outcome.

As a sidenote, if a movie has the A factor, it doesn't trigger me like I expected it would (possibly because few movies have EA's as a focal point), but now I look at how the characters could use MB principles to solve their issues....EN's not met, LB's galore, etc.

I know, I'm strange, late, backwards, and often wrong but hey, it's my thread so I'm exposing here...LOL <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

Any more movie ideas???? Any other threadjack topics? I'm still open for suggestions on either or both! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Ace

Action/Adventure/Romance/Comedy....

Guess one of my favorites for that category would be....

Romancing The [color:"green"]Stone[/color]

FH,

YOU are the third confirmation for that movie. I was given both I and II several years ago but have not watched them. I will this weekend.

Did you see my venting diatribe or were you posting simultaniously? Love to hear your input.

Ace

Ace, one thing I have been really mindful of since DDay #2 is the music I listen to. I don't even listen to pop music any more - I only listen to my local Christian music radio station or my mp3 player loaded with all my Christian rock/pop/hip-hop music.

But then on the other hand, I still allow myself to watch many of the movies that have been listed by everyone here. And I think to myself, am I a hypocrite for this? I won't listen to junk but I will watch junk? It doesn't add up for me. As the old saying goes - garbage in, garbage out.

Ace, only the individual can decide for themselves what they can watch or listen to, unless we are talking about things, like pornography, strip clubs, etc., that ARE destructive to a marriage at any time. Those "known problem areas" are things that come under the heading of "Boundaries."

All I can say about the other things is that there is a "rule" that I go by that is a follows: As a consequence of infidelity and as matter of a changed "perspective" (triggers, change in moral values, appropriateness, etc.) there are movies you can no longer watch, books you can no longer read, places you can no longer go, music you can no longer listen to. This applies to both of the spouses.

It is different for everyone, including the spouse's within the marriage. Generally the "thought" is that if it makes my spouse or me "uncomfortable," then it doesn't get done, watched, read, listened to, etc.

A somewhat "tougher" rule, because we are all tempted and occasionally succumb to temptation is: Does it bring honor and glory to God or does it simply "satisfy" my human desires?

God bless.

DH and I felt that "Click" was a thought provoking movie. I could tell he was a bit uncomfortable with parts, as he's gone through his phase of editing out his family. Overall, it was a good warning against being selective about which parts of your life you participate in, and which you ignore.

EPH, FH, and Dobie,

All interesting aspects to the movie 'choices' we have before us.

Thanks for your input....wish I had more time to comment.

Ace

EPH, I know what you mean by music triggers. We had the reverse....I had to quit listening to a Christian radio station because it triggered a bad "church scenario" which was one of the lowest points in our marriage....well except for the A. But I can listen to it now as the songs have changed enough over the years that the triggers have decreased.

Your 'garbage in-garbage out' theory is what has led to much of our societal moral demise IMHO. I was so glad we did not have a TV when I was growing up that I pledged that we would not have a TV if my H and I ever had kids. But someone gave us an old B&W when our kids were little and before long we had cable and Sesame Street and eventually the whole nine yards. As twentysomethings, our DS seldom watches, even sports, but our DD is a pop culture queen of movie/TV trivia.

FOREVER HERS, your 'choices' concept is so crucial to our families of America that it seems it's a never-ending battle complicated by our need to pacify even toddlers while busy mom and dad go about our frenzied lives. I tried to keep our choices wholesome and clean, but outside influences eventually overtook my efforts in the pre-teen years.

DOBIE, I think "Click" sounds intriguing as my H has attempted to edit out his family somewhat. And I'm wondering about how one can selectively choose to participate in some but not all of one's life.



We haven't seen them for years but we both enjoyed the Snowy River movies awhile back. Hey Big Kahuna....weren't you an extra in those flicks....when you were about 10? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Thanks for such great input......still open for more ideas.
Ace

Although he referred to it as "A Walk off the Platform", I enjoyed (and H appreciated) the redeeming qualities of Nicholas Sparks' "A Walk to Remember". Not many films show characters who stand for godly principles but I thought this one did.

Ace

It really doesn't fit the categories, but Secondhand Lions was wonderful. Sort of inspirational, I guess.

Dobie,

I remember wanting to see Lions but missed it in theatres. I think it's based on a true story, too. Thanks for reminding me.

I will look for Click, too. When was it released? Is it a deep drama or what?

Ace

Both movies are out on DVD. Here's the IMDB page on Click.

The concept is that he gets a remote control for his life. It's a learning remote, so it starts automatically skipping things for him.

cool, thanks, DB

"Flyboys" is a really great movie. Great flying scenes and the love story was well done.

WOW ... glad that I didn't see the jaded response to my suggestion until several days later. Thanks Ace for the support. And, sorry that others have given up.

That being said, we don't watch anything unless we check it out on "Focus on the Family" web site. They do great movie reviews and this lets you know if there are going to be any triggers. I stongly suggest the sight if you are concerned that a subject might hurt your S.

You might want to check it out for their recommendations.

lilmom

Hi Lilmom,

Your FonF web site idea is a great one. Wish I had that option when my kids were young but oh well.

Have you seen The Power of One ? I have to watch it again to remember the specifics but it was very inspiring....and a true story, I think.

I saw that you are new, (me too) so I wanted to encourage you to be open to all kinds of input, some works, some doesn't, some may seem meanspirited but was not meant that way. Don't be offended and don't take anything personally....just be yourself and seek as well as offer help when you can.

I actually got the most help when I offered 'wrong advice', attracted many passionate posters to 'help correct me', and eventually had to withdraw from the boards for 2 weeks to sort things out between my WH and me and God.....and we even called the MB Radio show at Dr. and Mrs. Harley's suggestion! I'll email personal details I can't post on the boards if you want to hear about it.

I looked for your sitch but could not find it....is it listed somewhere? Glad you're here and thanks for the movie review tip.

God Bless you,
Ace

Entrapment. Sean Connery/Catherine Zeta Jones
Lot's of action for the guys, lots of romance for the gals.

The Italian Job. Mark Wahlberg/Charlize Theron.
Action, Italy, Mini Coopers, Action

It's way down on this board. Mental problems is in the subject line. I took the advice offered and have left it alone when the advice stopped. It definately helped. I've been trying to support others like trigirls and learn from other FWW and BS. I do try to be supportive of the WS to encourage them to keep trying. I think the board at times misses this key ingredient. If either side loses hope it is very difficult keeping everything together.

Thanks again for the support. I'd like to hear your advice -- It's good for me to hear input from other BS as the emotion is out of it and it comes through much clearer than from my recovering BH.

I'm going to check out that movie...we need inspirational viewing in our house! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Thanks again,
lilmom
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FWW - me 38
Recovering BH - 37
Married 17 years

NC September 2005
EA - 3 weeks September 2005
1 week - skidding to PA -- thank GOD my H saved me from that mistake!!!!
DD October 1, 2005
17 months in the nightmare we called recovery.
Turned the corner to real recovery about 2 weeks ago!

TM: I've heard of 'Flyboys' and will try to find it. Who's in it?

BA109: My husband and I saw both.....great combination of adventure and romance. Thanks.

LM: Thanks for your kind words. Let me know what you think of The Power of One. I'll try to find your sitch on those threads.

Ace

hmm the only ones I recognized where Jean Reno (Ronin) and James Franco (spiderman). Great flick.

TJ Sorry!!! Ace - I bumped it for you!

Thanks,
lilmom

Ditto to Tired Man on Flyboys both Arewen and I loved it. I havent seen Authur mentioned, dont know about the historical accuracy, but it has the action and the romance between Gweniver and Authur
Aragon

it really has nothing to do with romance but i just watched THE PRESTIGE.....oldest son and i loved it and had most of it figured out 1/2 way through(we are clue finders with movies...) everyone else really liked it and were floored at the ending!

has anyone figured out the movie Premonition yet? from what i see on the clips her marriage is stale, he is cheeting, dies in an accident and she then figures out its a premonition and SHOULD she stop it.....that's a thought for a bs......

LILMOM: My H said to ask how old your kids were....the Power of One is often shown in Jr. High and High School classes to educate regarding prejudices and what one person did to change things, but it may not be suitable for younger kids.

A and A: I see you're new.....what's your sitch? Thanks for the thoughts on Flyboys and Authur....will check on them.

NIKKO: I'm realizing that my H and I actually enjoy more movie types than than I thought. A Few Good Men had no romance but had great drama which we both enjoyed.....(our kids memorized much of the dialogue). Thanks for the input.

Kids are 16 & 9. Sounds like a good one to sit down and watch with my older one tonight. The little one is having a buddy sleep-over!


Also, I am going to add a few "sports inspirational' movies that my H and guys like....but very little romance. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

For The Love of The Game
Glory Road
And, --- The new Rocky movie comes out next Tuesday (Mar. 20)

Thanks,
lilmom

Hey Lilmom,

The Rookie was one of our favorite sports inspirational movies.

Also Rudy & Remember the Titans

We missed Rocky 6 in theatres...just didn't get there but heard it was better than 5. Tuesday...eh?

I vaguely recall that a new sports inspirational movie is supposed to be coming out..... this spring or summer, I think. Anyone know the name or sport?

Ace

LOVE ... all of those. The Rookie had our kids begging my H to hit tryouts again!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> He was playing in a father son game the year that movie came out and hit a homer about 450 out the baseball stadium, and over the vistor bleachers on to the football field behind the baseball stadium. It was quite a show!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Gotta love a man who can hit a ball!

We saw Rocky Balboa and it is worth watching. Big Thumbs Up. You and your H will love it!! Super Fabulous for the over 40 crew!!!! He even quotes scripture!! We heard that he is a christian now.

I like Sweet Home Alabama -- it's about a young couple that splits up and she goes home years later to get him to sign the divorce papers and they get back together. It's funny.
And, 2 weeks Notice with Sandra Bollock and Hugh Grant. A little racy in spots. But, my all time Chick Flick favorite is Sabrina the new or old version. Both are Fabulous!!

Also, we saw Casino Royale (the new James Bond) ... anyone that is sensitive to a man "gettin' giggy" with a Married Woman beware. It's a main plot line. Seems like they can't think of anything else in Hollywood.

Later!!!
lilmom

I liked Count of Monte Cristo..

Hey ForeverInLove,

Count of Monte Cristo could be an inspiring romantic sports movie.....I could watch Jim Caveisel (sp?) do anything.

Lilmom, you've inspired me to bump this thread with a twist to sports inpirational movies....plus I just found out the name of that new sports movie coming out soon....like this weekend:

It's called Pride and features swimming. (That's all I know....if anyone sees it, please give us a review.)

I could also watch McConnehey in anything, even in We Are Marshall, which was inspiring due to being a true story (football team plane crash) with consultants who were personally involved. My H said he didn't think some of the coaching perspectives were realistic, but that's to be expected from any profession.

Through this thread, I discovered my H and I like more "science fictionish" movies than I thought:

Phenomenon (John Travolta)
Frequency (Jim Caviesel)
Pay It Forward (Haley Joel Osmet)
Independence Day (Will Smith)
Contact (Jody Foster, McConnehey)

What other "sci-fictionish" movies are similar to those?

Any other sports inspirational movies out there?

Sports movies:

I hear the movie Invincible (with Mark Wahlberg) is good, same for Remember the Titans.

If you consider Ice Skating a sport - The Cutting Edge is good.

Somebody already mentioned Hoosiers before.
Days of Thunder - Tom Cruise and NASCAR
Miracle - the story of the 1980 US men's olympic hockey team
gold medal

Just to name a few....

Has anyone seen THE BIG FISH? It's supposed to combine romance and flashback adventure in an inspiring story. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Speaking of BIG FISH, it'd be great if anyone reading Mark's Fishing Lessons in the Recreation forum could comment on his concepts intertwining marriage issues with fishing concepts.

Still sseeking other movie suggestions.

Thanks,
Ace

The Other Side of the Mountain - based on a true story about an Olympic downhill skier who winds up paralyzed form a ski accident while training for competition.