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Cold Mountain

King Kong!!!!!

All the Pretty Horses

Romancing the Stone

Superman Returns

The Bourne Identity

Catch Me If You Can

The Mask

Fun with [censored] and Jane

The Perfect Storm

North by Northwest

Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (REALLY!)

Hotel Rwanda

Braveheart

Spider Man
Spider Man 2

The Mexican

Raiders of the Lost Ark

When I finally watched "Mr & Mrs Smith" I actually enjoyed in spite of Brad and Angie's real lives.


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Man....Mates.....great list! Thanks. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

How 'bout inspirational 'based on true story' movies? Any others in addition to the ones I mentioned above?

Still looking for action/adventure/romance movie ideas.

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Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind is a great movie, dealing with the feelings that we all have during this at one time or another. I saw that movie before all of this started happening, and refer to it a lot. I would rather keep my memories...


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"The Straight Story" is inspirational and based on a true story, but I wouldn't consider it very action packed or romantic. I loved it anyways.


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Before you took the 'inspirational' bend, I was going to suggest "Romancing the Stone".

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Our family enjoyed Facing the Giants recently. Inspirational and very little romance - but sweet.

BTW --- has anyone noticed how every movie and TV jokes or glamorizes As?

We need to start a letter to go to all of the major producers in Hollywood explaining the devestation of As and asking them to not glamorize or joke about them. Isn't Mulan a writer? Maybe someone else has industry ties that can get this seen?

What do you think?

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The Life of David Gale has his wife leave him because of one. It shows him crying on the phone.

Fatal Attraction was pretty cool too.

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dont know if you have seen A Night With The King... Based on Esther.... I really enjoyed it..... Also the more recent movie on Johnny Cash was pretty good too..... i think it was called Walk The Line.... French Kiss with Meg Ryan and Only You with Robert Downey Jr were both cute romances with a lot of running around type scenes.... i will keep on thinking of others too....


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The African Queen is a classic.


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Great ideas....my new laptop has a dvd player so I may check some of these out to find the ones H would enjoy, too.

I don't watch TV much but H watches the Discovery channel....Survivorman, Dirty Jobs and Myth Busters and, of course ESPN. But he will turn any show off immediately if I mention something that might require his full attention or an indepth discussion.

That's one of the reasons I'm trying to find movies we can both enjoy. He is making so many changes that I appreciate, including going to a new/old MC (who H balked at seeing after D-Day 1 because MC and H had become such good friends 20+ years ago, even though we later moved and sort of lost touch.) But H said he'll watch whatever I pick out.....

...So please keep the movie ideas coming:

* Action Adventure with Romance <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

* Inspirational adventure based on a true story <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/ooo.gif" alt="" />

* Romantic comedy w/a bit of intriguing adventure (ala "Heart & Soul"...I loved that movie & H tolerated it well.) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

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Romancing the Stone

Crocodile Dundee

Heart Like a Wheel- The Shirley Muldowney Story

Man on Fire (the Denzel Washington version)--pretty gritty


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BTW --- has anyone noticed how every movie and TV jokes or glamorizes As?

We need to start a letter to go to all of the major producers in Hollywood explaining the devestation of As and asking them to not glamorize or joke about them. Isn't Mulan a writer? Maybe someone else has industry ties that can get this seen?

What do you think?

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Hey Pep,

You're right, it is funny to think that somehow our pain of infidelity might challenge and win over the power of the almighty buck. But it's also sad that many of us (me included) have subsidized that industry by paying for what they've served over the years.

Lilmom's suggestion, while seeming humorously impossible, has been attempted by many, some more successfully than others. What is so sad is how our world has changed to the point where we as a society seem to want more of what is actually destroying us and many are paying big bucks for it.

Several of the movies listed by all of us above include portions that could be Exhibit A (as in 'display #1, AND "A" for AFFAIRS)....and we listed them in spite of their content based on our values of them in our lives at one time or another. Right or wrong, we choose....and that's one of the joys (which often leads to pain) of living in America.

But since this is a lighthearted movie thread veering towards heavier social issues in movies, I encourage Lilmom to see "The Power of One". Mel Gibson's "Passion of the Christ" is another example of how one person's $heer determination against numerous odd$ can produce a $uccessful outcome.

As a sidenote, if a movie has the A factor, it doesn't trigger me like I expected it would (possibly because few movies have EA's as a focal point), but now I look at how the characters could use MB principles to solve their issues....EN's not met, LB's galore, etc.

I know, I'm strange, late, backwards, and often wrong but hey, it's my thread so I'm exposing here...LOL <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

Any more movie ideas???? Any other threadjack topics? I'm still open for suggestions on either or both! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

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Action/Adventure/Romance/Comedy....

Guess one of my favorites for that category would be....

Romancing The [color:"green"]Stone[/color]

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FH,

YOU are the third confirmation for that movie. I was given both I and II several years ago but have not watched them. I will this weekend.

Did you see my venting diatribe or were you posting simultaniously? Love to hear your input.

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Ace, one thing I have been really mindful of since DDay #2 is the music I listen to. I don't even listen to pop music any more - I only listen to my local Christian music radio station or my mp3 player loaded with all my Christian rock/pop/hip-hop music.

But then on the other hand, I still allow myself to watch many of the movies that have been listed by everyone here. And I think to myself, am I a hypocrite for this? I won't listen to junk but I will watch junk? It doesn't add up for me. As the old saying goes - garbage in, garbage out.


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Ace, only the individual can decide for themselves what they can watch or listen to, unless we are talking about things, like pornography, strip clubs, etc., that ARE destructive to a marriage at any time. Those "known problem areas" are things that come under the heading of "Boundaries."

All I can say about the other things is that there is a "rule" that I go by that is a follows: As a consequence of infidelity and as matter of a changed "perspective" (triggers, change in moral values, appropriateness, etc.) there are movies you can no longer watch, books you can no longer read, places you can no longer go, music you can no longer listen to. This applies to both of the spouses.

It is different for everyone, including the spouse's within the marriage. Generally the "thought" is that if it makes my spouse or me "uncomfortable," then it doesn't get done, watched, read, listened to, etc.

A somewhat "tougher" rule, because we are all tempted and occasionally succumb to temptation is: Does it bring honor and glory to God or does it simply "satisfy" my human desires?

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DH and I felt that "Click" was a thought provoking movie. I could tell he was a bit uncomfortable with parts, as he's gone through his phase of editing out his family. Overall, it was a good warning against being selective about which parts of your life you participate in, and which you ignore.


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EPH, FH, and Dobie,

All interesting aspects to the movie 'choices' we have before us.

Thanks for your input....wish I had more time to comment.

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EPH, I know what you mean by music triggers. We had the reverse....I had to quit listening to a Christian radio station because it triggered a bad "church scenario" which was one of the lowest points in our marriage....well except for the A. But I can listen to it now as the songs have changed enough over the years that the triggers have decreased.

Your 'garbage in-garbage out' theory is what has led to much of our societal moral demise IMHO. I was so glad we did not have a TV when I was growing up that I pledged that we would not have a TV if my H and I ever had kids. But someone gave us an old B&W when our kids were little and before long we had cable and Sesame Street and eventually the whole nine yards. As twentysomethings, our DS seldom watches, even sports, but our DD is a pop culture queen of movie/TV trivia.

FOREVER HERS, your 'choices' concept is so crucial to our families of America that it seems it's a never-ending battle complicated by our need to pacify even toddlers while busy mom and dad go about our frenzied lives. I tried to keep our choices wholesome and clean, but outside influences eventually overtook my efforts in the pre-teen years.

DOBIE, I think "Click" sounds intriguing as my H has attempted to edit out his family somewhat. And I'm wondering about how one can selectively choose to participate in some but not all of one's life.



We haven't seen them for years but we both enjoyed the Snowy River movies awhile back. Hey Big Kahuna....weren't you an extra in those flicks....when you were about 10? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Thanks for such great input......still open for more ideas.
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