A third choice? Not reconciled, but not apart.... - 10/10/11 10:17 PM
Hi guys,
Been a LONG time since I was on. And I have a question that I knew this was the place I would get an intelligent answer.
Have an IRL couple whom I know and here is the situation.
An affair hit the marriage, and it did it's damage. Doesn't matter who committed it. Point is, H & W at this point can't stand each other and don't talk to each other unless it is to make biting comments.
They have a DS (14) and a DD (7) and are staying together for the sake of the kids. Meaning they don't want to ruin the childhood for the kids with the weekend swapping, the relative loss of income (once they establish two homes). They are essentially faking it for their sakes.
Which sometimes works out. Sometimes there are yelling and screaming matches until the kids are in tears. A lot of hatred between mom and dad.
Is this the right call? Suck it up for the sake of the children?
Or is this the wrong call? Meaning what kind of spouse are these kids going to become, based on the example of their parents? What will they consider "acceptable?"
And on a side note, is this how it was in the 50s when divorce was taboo?
NCW
Been a LONG time since I was on. And I have a question that I knew this was the place I would get an intelligent answer.
Have an IRL couple whom I know and here is the situation.
An affair hit the marriage, and it did it's damage. Doesn't matter who committed it. Point is, H & W at this point can't stand each other and don't talk to each other unless it is to make biting comments.
They have a DS (14) and a DD (7) and are staying together for the sake of the kids. Meaning they don't want to ruin the childhood for the kids with the weekend swapping, the relative loss of income (once they establish two homes). They are essentially faking it for their sakes.
Which sometimes works out. Sometimes there are yelling and screaming matches until the kids are in tears. A lot of hatred between mom and dad.
Is this the right call? Suck it up for the sake of the children?
Or is this the wrong call? Meaning what kind of spouse are these kids going to become, based on the example of their parents? What will they consider "acceptable?"
And on a side note, is this how it was in the 50s when divorce was taboo?
NCW