Learning to have an intimate conversation - 10/25/15 10:13 PM
As a man, I find it very difficult to have an intimate conversation with my wife. I'm defining intimate as in talking with my spouse about something that is extremely difficult and uncomfortable to talk about. I've made some really dumb mistakes over the past 5 years and all that my wife has asked me to do is to talk to her about those things. When I go to attempt to bring up a topic I get extremely anxious and just know that its not going to turn out well. That said, when I do talk to my wife consistently about difficult things, she is more than understanding and does not lash out or have any angry outbursts. We tend to go through a consistent cycle where she has a blow up and then I work at being better at communicating intimately with her. I struggle with this day after day until she gets frustrated and has another angry outburst. Then we start all over again and go through the same cycle. We are not growing together and moving forward, we are just stuck in the same cycle over and over again. I blame myself for this but don't really know what to do. Why does my wife have to have me talk to her about these uncomfortable things. I'd rather just avoid them altogether because I am uncomfortable when we talk about these things. What is it about my wife that requires her to talk through these things constantly before she can heal from the hurt that I've caused?
I'm just looking for someone who has had a similar situation and has learned to be close and to build an intimate relationship where you can talk about anything, anytime without fear.
No infidelity...empty nesters now...looking forward to our later years in life but not like this...
I'm just looking for someone who has had a similar situation and has learned to be close and to build an intimate relationship where you can talk about anything, anytime without fear.
No infidelity...empty nesters now...looking forward to our later years in life but not like this...