Originally Posted by kstockett
maybe I just need to heal, get over my insecurity, and think of my marriage as more important than these occasionall triggers though.

You do need to heal. You will NOT do this when you run into the OW's sporadically, or know that your H can run into them any day of the week.

It is not about insecurity, it is about you perceiving a threat to your marriage, because there is one.

You need to rephrase that question at the end, is your marriage more important than your H's job?