Hello forum members. I don't remember the last time I posted here. But wanted to give some hope to those newer to this. It's been almost seven years since our D-Day. I don't even like to refer to it as that anymore because of the negative connotation. But everyone knows what that means, so there it is.

We are recovered. To those that wonder if you will ever forget, you probably won't. That's not the goal in my opinion. The goal is that it just doesn't matter anymore. It's not a factor in your life. You don't think about it often. Sometimes it comes back, and you remember those times, but it just isn't relevant anymore. It's not today.

To get there requires work. There is no getting around that. But it is possible. For some it works, for others it doesn't, no matter what you do. That is a fact. But I will say from experience that your chances of success are directly related to your commitment to what is taught here. Dr Harley knows what he is talking about. I use his knowledge every day. But know that this is a long game. It almost never happens overnight. In fact, if it did, I'd be highly suspicious of those results.

Not sure what else to relate. Just wanted to check in and give some encouragement to those just starting their journey. It gets better or it doesn't. The result is highly dependent on your own commitment to change and adaptation as it is with your spouse.

Hope all those that helped us along the way are well. Any questions, I'll try to answer.


Me (42)
Her (43) - feuillecouleur

DS(11)
DD(7)

Married: June 24, 2000

Recovered