Originally Posted by Coolbeginnings
Feeling like I missed a chance to sort things out when he stood in the kitchen and said that he is feeling devastated?

You aren't listening to us are you? Get your fingers out of your ears. BF is not going to even start to think about addressing the requirements you put into your plan B letter until he sees YOU start to be serious about plan B.

Right now he still thinks you will take him back without meeting any of your requirements. He wants his dinner cooked and to see his children every night and go back to treating you like a discarded sock. Keep this plan C up much longer and you will begin to hate him. You may also get ill at which time he will get custody.

Then it will not matter that he has dried out and done anger management because you will be past the point of no return. Is that what you want?

3 adult children
Divorced - he was a serial adulterer
Now remarried, thank you MB
(formerly lied_to_again)