I just read on old post of Living_well to a poster called Dajavude.

It said when your first marriage was failing, XH would show up every evening with flowers. That you got to the point of feeling sick if he turned up with another flower. That it felt to you that the flowers were his way of avoiding the real work of building a relationship of extraordinary care.

This is how I feel when BF brings gifts. I get a lot of gifts, today I got a brownie and he is bringing me a crab for dinner tonight! Every time I get a gift I feel the same. It’s worse on birthdays / Christmas was he spends a lot of money on me I am thinking where is my ring???? When are you really going to commit to me?? I really want to say take the gift back buy me something that means something.

Last edited by Coolbeginnings; 04/16/20 08:03 AM.