So BF had the children overnight at his place last night, he brought them back in the afternoon then went back home to do some work.

Whilst he was at his house dear son was telling me that BF shouted at him a few times. It is a real problem at the moment that DS really dislikes his father and does not want to go round there. I just feel BF is really hard on DS and picks on him. DS is 7 years old and is quite a hard work child prone to lots of tantrums, every so often he needs pulling in a little and then seems to revert to good behaviour. However, I feel that BF is very hard on him.

BF came back round later and him and DS were arguing again, BF stayed had some dinner then went to leave.

I had a conversation with him when he went to the car and kids were sat watching TV. I wanted to talk to him about how i dont feel he has been completely honest about the other woman and how he doesnt seem to be at all remorseful about the situation. This is how it went....

I said to BF that I am finding this situation really strange and he agreed with me and said it was and felt that perhaps we had jumped straight in and maybe that wasnt such a good idea and that he was backing off a little and perhaps coming over every other night! That the situation was strange with the pandemic and we were thrown together. He then started to launch into how he feels and that half our problems stem from our sons behaviour. That he wanted a simple life without any aggro. That he is finding work really stressful at the moment and he is worried about the long term implications. He also said that we disagree on how to bring up our son and that I am too soft with him. I then said I am disciplining him most days and not sure how he could say that. Already I felt again like I was trying to talk to him about how i felt and ended up me listening to him. Also mentioned that he heard me laughing and joking on a work conference call with other men and that we never do that. I told him that maybe it would be a good idea to revert back to our previous arrangement if this is how he felt. Anyway, I did manage to tell him that if he was going to come round here that he would have to be more transparent with his phone and stop all this contact with other women. He then started to tell me how insecure I was and drove off. I shook my head and walked inside.

So I guess I am back to Plan B....