and I understand all of those who have posted are probably fed up telling me, but I had to realise all those things you told me for myself. I couldn't face the reality of what I was hearing. I also understand if experienced posters dont want to post as they may feel I am a waste of time. No pity party but I understand that aswell.

I know he has a serious drink problem, and I know he needs serious therapy. That if I was let him back in now it would cause serious damage to the children. The most important thing is right now the children seem to be ok. They are behaving well and seem very happy.