Originally Posted by Coolbeginnings
I know he has a serious drink problem, and I know he needs serious therapy. That if I was let him back in now it would cause serious damage to the children. The most important thing is right now the children seem to be ok. They are behaving well and seem very happy.

Please explain the situation to them in child appropriate language. Otherwise they will be left trying to work it out for themselves and children always blame themselves unless someone tells them otherwise. You are absolutely right to put your children first. Best of luck to you,

3 adult children
Divorced - he was a serial adulterer
Now remarried, thank you MB
(formerly lied_to_again)