Originally Posted by Coolbeginnings
I am thinking now that I should just wait for him to come to me to initiate chat?!

Yes and it could take several weeks

Originally Posted by Coolbeginnings
Many people would have given up by now in my situation I am sure. IF he agrees to give up the alchohol and continue with us, I am not sure I can handle this distance between us living apart and dating. It is so hard.

Yes hard but harder for him. Drying out will be a long slog. He cannot just 'give up' the alcohol and he certainly cannot move back in until that is sorted.

Originally Posted by Coolbeginnings
I don’t know what to tell family and friends they are all wondering what is going on.

Just tell them you will let them know once you have some news (polite way of saying none of your beeswax)

3 adult children
Divorced - he was a serial adulterer
Now remarried, thank you MB
(formerly lied_to_again)