Thank you Sugar Cane. I think I do need to chill out a lot! I actually really enjoyed my time alone today, I think I did a pretty good job of not reacting to things.

Dr Harley kindly responded to my questions to;

1. Do we keep the children in a visitation schedule between our two properties?

Yes. It should be as if you are both divorced and dating in an effort to reconcile.

2. I am still concerned about his lack of commitment, I could go through this process and he still does not want to marry. any way I can test this?

The test comes after he has proven to be consistent in keeping his other commitments. The marriage issue is about whether or not you will be living together with your children or shuttling them back and forth for the remaining years you are raising them. And don't sign a prenuptial agreement.

That makes things clearer. He is one clever man!

I need to start enjoying life a little more even through all this turmoil,